Oky, we have dated about 3,5 years, and than the problems started(a half year ago). She started avoiding me, and making a lot of things harder for me and when I tried to talk to her she said she was insecure about what she wants in her life, and weather she loves me etc, so she said she would like to stick with me,and that this is just a phaze,and that I shuld give her just a bit space to recover - so I did. I let her to drag me like this for a long time (about 2-3months) then she asked if I would like to get back together - I did. It was great, she was a lot beter then before just for until I accidentilly found some sms-s in her cell refering to another guy. When I talked to her, she said that she was "only twice" with him, and according to her theory it was while we weren't together (i don't see that we ever broke up -she does). She says now she loves me more then anything,and she can not live without me. (and se is quite convincing -she said she would never leave the house without me if necessary and things like that) My problem is that, maybe I would break up, but in my mind, all the time I think how will she feel, is she going to be hurt, etc. I did love her more than anything, but now I'm not sure, I'm not sure can I forgive her, and I'm not sure if I do how can I face my friends. so? Should I get forgive her all of this or what and how to do?
You always have to forgive. You can't walk around with a burden that strong because it will eat at until you do. Just because you forgive her doesn't meant hat you need to get back together with her. You said that you were in love with her. I think that you should give her another chance if your feelings are still there because she made the dumb mistake that some people do when they don't realize they have someone amazing that loves and that they love that person just as much if not more. This is your heart just do what you think is right and it will turn out.
Eventually you have to forgive her. Not for her, for you. So that you will have peace and so that it won't consume you. Only you can decide what's right. A lot of times when people aren't sure about their relationships and cheat they almost always say that they are sorry and that it was a mistake and that you are what they wanted. So what? If you have a doubt its ok to sleep with other people as long as you're sorry later. She was so messed up for that. Weather you guys were broken up or not. And if you were broken up that should have been made clear. At the end of the day you have to do what is right for you. Worry about your feelings and weather or not you want to pursue this. She obviously didn't take you feelings into consideration at the time and didn't think about how hurt you would be so why are you so concerned with hers? Don't stay together just to spare her feelings. Make this decision about you.
Always forgive never forget. Your feelings are also important, go with how you feel before you go with anybody else feeling. Make sure you happy. Don't put urself in a place you DONT want to be.
If its true love then you'll know what to do but if its mixed feelings take some time out to yourself and get ur mind right( just like she did)
Ask yourself if it was vise versa: WOULD SHE TAKE THE TIME OUT TO CARE ABOUT UR FEELINGS? ~or~ WOULD SHE FORGIVE YOU? ~or~ WOULD SHE EVEN LEAVE OR DECIDE TO BE WITH YOU?
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