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My boyfriend passed away

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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)     When: 7 months ago
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My boyfriend of 3yrs just died ago and found out I'm carrying his baby what do I do?

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That-Guy (Age:18 to 24)      When: 7 months ago
This is going to turn into an abortion debate so I'll try to be as less subjective as possible.

You understand that you are young and naive. Once you have that baby the world you live in is now devoted to your child. Are you ready to give all that personal ambition for the kid? Are you mature enough to teach her enough let alone financially stable enough to care for her?

I understand at this age, your boyfriend was very important to you and it's a terrible thing to lose someone close but what you want and what's best for your baby might not be to have him/her born today.

Abortion or adoption unless you have parents who are willing to help support the baby, you aren't going to be sufficient enough as you're not even done with high school.
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haywire To save you the question of answering the questions: No, you are not mature enough to teach her and raise her. There is so much cool stuff you can do in your life that would be messed up by a baby. It sounds harsh, but the guy is dead and that means he's not going to take offense or anything if you abort, just do it, get on with your life and have strength. - 7 months ago

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haywire (Age:18 to 24)      When: 7 months ago
Abort abort abort. You're under 18? Do it for the kid's sake. Don't let it grow into something that will suffer.
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dohcrwd (Age:25 to 29)      When: 7 months ago
Miss,

i am sorry for your lost. as we all know people come, people go. there is life in front of you. be strong and the baby need you to be strong as well.

seek help from family, school and Jesus.

if there anything I can do, please let me know

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lefthand Isn't it a little presumptuous to assume she shares your faith?
Beyond that article of faith, there is little to recommend the course of action you suggest. She will suffer mightily and you can feel self-righteous about it. It's a bad trade off. I know too many single mom who destroyed their lives to raise a kid they didn't want. 2 lives destroyed but everyone else can feel good about it. - 7 months ago

lefthand
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lefthand (Age:36 to 45)      When: 7 months ago
Honestly? Consider abortion before you tell anyone else (who might have lots of advise but disappear when the real work starts.). Carrying it to term is a big struggle emotionally and physically. Few people are ready for kids prior to finishing college and starting a career. Single motherhood blows enormously and I can't recommend it to anyone.
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SimplyAGuy (Age:30 to 35)      When: 7 months ago
A child could be his legacy but you have consider the child and your ability to raise it alone. Be strong and ask people who are close if they're willing to support you during your times in need. I know it's scary but be strong.
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eyeloveyou2 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 7 months ago
Wow, I'm really sorry for your loss. But, whatever you do, don't get an abortion. Have this baby for your boyfriend. I don't think you understand that the baby that is inside of your stomach is actually alive, living and breathing. Be brave. I will be praying for you.
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Delight (Age:18 to 24)      When: 7 months ago
Look I had to deal with this when I was 15,he didn't die but he left me. I kept the baby and that was the best decision I've ever made. Now I have 2 children and I wouldn't change it for anything. Plus abortion is like killing your own child. But I wish you the best of luck!
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sheepingly (Age:25 to 29)      When: 7 months ago
Depends on whether you decide to carry it to term or abort it.

I personally think it is your decision to make and if you can handle being a mother at a young age.
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Bubbles (Age:25 to 29)      When: 7 months ago
You don't kill the baby, just cause the father passed away fool, the baby did nothing wrong. so why take that out on the baby. if you parents are willing to help you ok, but if not then carry it to term and put it up for adoption.......... Give it to someone that wants a child that can't have one of there own..
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