I caught my 10 year old daughter drinking?

wow this is a hard one first you talk then definitely get her counseling a ten year old drinking and even experimenting in sex is trouble. Get someone involved don't wait .Is father around?Do you have parties? Things like that will influence a child where is the alcohol coming from who is she hanging out with?Older kids influence kids older brothers or sisters are they partying?Above all get some one to help you talk to her and her friends . Also her friends parents get them involved it is not a bad thing they need to know now before the worst happens if has not already

In her mind, she probably knows it's not okay for her to drink - that's why she hid the bottles under her bed/you had to catch her. But, if you don't know, then it wasn't going to hurt you - your daughter is thinking. She saw people having fun while drinking but she never someone who drank too much or she hasn't seen the effects of alcohol poisoning enough to a point to know how to control her alcohol consumption at an early age. She knows if she sneaks a little alcohol, she is going to have some fun but she doesn't know where that will lead to. She doesn't know how much will make her sick, she doesn't know how much will make her forget what happened the night before.

You got to explain to her that you drink responsibly, she doesn't have to catch you drinking, you don't hide it from her. But now you're going to have to set an example for her because the "Do as I say, not as I do" doesn't work as well as everyone would like it to. Whether you keep it to weekends, or when you have a babysitter, whatever, that's going to have to be up to your responsibility to make her see that a person doesn't need alcohol just to have a good time.

This is what else I would do: I would sit her down and have a talk with her and whoever you know that had a really bad experience with alcohol. You know, someone with a "I didn't think it would happen to me story" and explain to her the difference between what is thought of as cool and where it leads to and what the better and more responsible choices would have been. But now after that, since she wants to try and get away with "adult things" like drinking then I would say to her "apparently you have got extra time to do things like try to sneak alcohol so now I will fill up that time with more responsible things like chores and work around the house that has to be done to my approval so I know that you're not wasting your time doing something that you shouldn't, and I'm going to stop buying the junk food you like and start buying vegetables that you and you're friends are going to have to snack on (lol, I know dreaded vegetables - but something like this says 'control' and lets her know that you can be cool or you can be tough, plus it gets her attention when you actually do this it says 'whoa, mom wasn't playing was she' it's her choice)." And talk to her as a person not like you're mad, but trying to understand her. Because you going to talk to her in this way because you don't want her to be afraid to be able to talk to you about things that are going on in her life, but you want to be able to know that she is responsible enough to make smart decisions based on the consequences, whether known or unknown at the time. But this is something you're going to have to stand by, and be tough on at first.

Get rid of the liquor from your house. If you can't keep the kids out of the liquor then learn to drink it where they can't have access. Don't bring it into the house at all. It sounds to me like you are the supplier. Also.give a good spanking. I know some people are anti-spanking, but come one, look at the world since we stopped spanking our children. I'm not talking beat the kid till they can't walk, I'm talking a few good swats on the backside. make them sting. At 10 years old, the parents should be in control, not the kids. Take back control of your child.

i would try to find the source of the problem if you drink only drink where she ant get hold like that dude the nash said keep it out of her reach do not bring beer booze alcohol into the house anymore keep it away give her help something like take her to a counselor or to a therapist or something try to get her to stop I don't like beer never drank a drop in my life my parents would kill me to be a little harder on her make it difficult for her to get the beer and if you find more take it and take away something precious of hers for a while like friends so she won't be tempted ok?

I drank when I was younger hell when I growing up my mom gave me beer because I liked it [i don't even like it now].
my mom has always let me do what I want [more or less when I wanted too] she taught me well though someone people may think it's bad parenting I turned out a lot better then friends I have to go get drunk every weekend, doing various other drugs [harder drugs] flunking out of school.

I believe having the access to it and my mom not making a huge deal out of it made it kind of boring.don't all kids want to do whatever parents say they can't? now I'm not saying a ten year old should go get wasted start having sex and giving blow jobs between classes but she is getting these ideas [and the alcohol I'll bet too] from you, I don't think parents realize just how much attention their kids are paying to them, even if it seems like their not.

There could also be something else going on? if a family member has passed she could be upset about that or something at school) could be causing her to do this, or nothing and she just likes the taste.?

And aside from talking you could maybe get creative and have like a "fancy" dinner or something and make some virgin cocktails to teach her that drinking should be limited to special occasions if she does drink.

grounding her is not going to work at this point. I think you should take her for counseling. you also need to make sure that she's not around those punks anymore. she probably started drinking because she saw one of her friends drinking or was told that it's 'cool' to drink. if you find that she's not listening to you and heeding your advice, you have to take desperate measures and that may require getting professional help.
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I don't know how else to help you as I'm not a mother myself. anyway, good luck.

ok its nothing got to do with the fact she seen you drink as my parents never drank and I drank every weekend from the age of 13!

my reasons when I first did I was just curious then I ended up liking the way it made me more confident!

my parents grounded me which killed me at first and they stop giving me money but were there's a will there's a way so I always ended up finding drink somehow!

i ended up having sex when I was 14 because of how much I drank I'm not ashamed to say that because its my mistake in life!

but I learned from that mistake and stoped drinking for a year or 2! I drink now but not to the point were it would change me completly!

i don't think there is a way to stop your daughter if she really wants to drink she will somehow although 10 is a veryvery young age!

ground her see how that goes because I know when I got grounded it drove me mental and id think oh I'm never drinking again but I did because that's all really 13 year old were I lived done!

explain to her the bad things that happen due to alchol and try make her see sense explain if she keeps drinking so young she's more likely to get pregnant or put herself in a position to and that if she does her life will be ruined and she won't we able to do all the stuff she wanted to do in life!

im lucky I never got pregnant when I was 14 but after that I never had sex for like 3years so