i was speaking to my mother about my gay friend having cancer and it horrified me and made me so ashamed to hear her response! she said are you sure its not aids as he is gay?i just wanted to hit her how horrible was that of her !just because someone is gay doesn't mean the only disease they can get is aids anyone can get aids !and since when did cancer become aids.i never want to ever here anyone say something even the slightest bit similar to what she said !w hy are people so horrible and stereotypical?
Why don't you talk to your mom about this. I doubt she thought before she spoke. If you approach her calmly, without judging her, asking her to explain her response, she may be able to shed some light on the subject, without supposition. Remember not to judge her response, listen and, if possible, visualize what she is saying. You might be amazed at what you learn. You might find some things you have in common, or not. It is worth the attempt though.
When she said it I said to her I can't believe you just said that you should actually be ashamed for saying that and she just said nothing - 7 months ago
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She may have been agreeing with you, by her silence. Some parents are afraid to let their children know they have made a mistake, since they believe the lie that authority comes from being right, all the time. In reality, being willing to confess your mistakes builds authority, while being unable to do so undermines authority. In any case, you should talk to her sometime when tensions aren't so high, without the judgment, so she can have space to open up. She cares, even if she can't show it - 7 months ago
I know that but my mother actually has nothing against gay people as a lot of our family is gay that's why I was so shocked when she said that - 7 months ago
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Chica,don't worry about it then.She probably just opened her mouth without thinking,ask her about it if you're not sure. - 7 months ago
We live in a time where everything is supposed to fine and everyone is supposed to accepted and needs to be politically correct. That is not always the case.
During your mother's time, people that were gay generally did get AIDS. When AIDS was first discovered it was thought to be a gay/drug addict disease. I think older people have a harding time accepting things than younger people do because the attitudes that were prevalent when they were growing up. It was insensitive on your mother part but cut her a break.
So unless I'm mistaken that means she was alive for the majority of her life when AIDS was mainly seen as a gay disease or one that only affected drug addicts. I'm not saying I agree with her statement at all but there probably is some reason behind it - 7 months ago
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But why would she say it she know s gay people I mean half her nephews are gay and if I said he had cancer why would she assume I was lying and say oh are you sure its not aids she doesn't have a problem with gay people that's why I don't understand - 7 months ago
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