My parents confuse me, help anyone?

Wow well part of that sounds like my story. I was pulled out of a private school in 6th grade but I was shoved back into a public school in the 9th grade. Home schooling is great (academically for the most part). However, it is stifling for the students and they don't know how to operate in the real world. As far as you going to school try applying anyways. Your parents don't have to know. your an adult now. If your parents were like mine they can be over protective which isn't healthy at this age because you have to live your own life, make your own choices, and even make your own mistakes. That's how people learn to live in the real world!

I had to apply to college myself. I can tell you this though that if your parents don't make allot of money then you have a good chance of getting financial aid in which your parents don't have to be apart of. What I did though was go to a community college to figure out what I wanted to do. I paid for part of my schooling out of pocket but they also awarded me tuition for the second half. Now that I am 24 I applied to Gonzaga University in Spokane,WA and got a full paid scholarship (private universities give better grants and usually have a better social life than the state universities).

Over all some words of wisdom I can give you being in a similar situation is.

1. You do need to put some distance from your parents. It it is your life not theirs. They can be worried but they shouldn't have enough influence over you to MAKE you change what your plans are. This also does effect any future relationships with guys because they want to be going out with you not your parents.

2. Don't forget your parents. You should be close enough to your parents where you can speak with them. It may be that you need to put some distance between you and them but later do come back and start up your relationship with them. Just make sure they don't take over your life again.

3. Don't party when your free. If you are a decent looking girl your in for a roller coaster ride. My little sis was also where I was but she was fairly good looking. She went to parties and got involved in stuff that was way over the top. Take your freedom and make sure you are responsible with it. Don't do something stupid because you want to fit in.

4. Study how people act out in public. Go to the malls and just watch (don't stare or follow though, lol). Read up somethings on the internet and you'll be fine on your own.

Oh and about school shootings, check the records. There have been fewer school shootings in the last 20 years. Check the 50's,60's and even 70's. It's just that back then it wasn't as big of a news catcher with the cold war going on. You should be just fine in college and should be more worried about getting in a car if that is the case. More people die in car accidents than colleges. Your parents logic is unsound there.

Good luck! I can sympathize with you and hope the best.

My only guess is they are being far too over protective, I would suggest looking the things up that you think you'll need to know in a real life ask close friends and relatives you know or strongly believe you can trust and try to inch your way to having an actual life, I would not suggest immediately moving out or moving in with someone else because then you still won't be independent and who ever you move in with could take advantage of you, so I'd suggest baby steps, hope it helps. =)

I had a friend in the same situation.

Some things that might help.
move in with other relatives.
a trusted friend.
or an apt close to relatives so you can slowly build you confidence but still have people to fall back on if needed

Hello Babygirl, I am a parent, and it is such a different world out there! I bet you, that if you talk to your parents, they would confirm that they are scared for their little girl( and you will be their little girl for as long as they live, we can't help it). My boys are 26 and 28, I still worry about them. They are so trusting. Trust is good, but should not be givin' out to just anybody. I bet you have a great personality too, for the home schooling. I have never met a person, male or female that was home schooled, that had a displeasing personality. Always very sweet, well mannered and a pleasure to be around. Don't you worry about your social life. Be true to you, your likes and your life style. Please don't be too hard on Mom and Dad, our hardest event in our life is letting our children go and grow. We don't mean to clip your wings, only to protect you from harm! There are sites that unit home school kids with other home school kids. Good for you and your goal for Collage, there are jr collages too, if you need to go slower because of money. See a counselor at a nearby collage and they can steer you towards grants, and other monies for helping pay for collage. Keep and Touch and Let me know what you decide to major in at collage. Oh little bit about me, I married at sixteen, divorced at 23 and went back to school and finally received my Masters in psychology at 38 years of age and raised two boys. I did it the hard way, because I misunderstood my parents strict rules and distrust in me. I found out to late, that it wasn't me they didn't trust.It was that big bad world out there, that they didn't trust. The Greatest Luck to you.And be happy you have parents that care too much, many out there have parents that don't care at ALL!

Maybe you can look into scholarships, grants, and student loans to help pay off your school. Like go to a school which has a dorm you can live in, get a pt. time job and use loans to pay it off. I hope everything works out for you!