Pregnant by a guy from a different country. help

Well that is definitely a hard situation. You do have to tell him though. I mean he should at least know that he has a kid whether he cares or not. He might surprise you though and help out in some way. But yea you definitely need to tell him.

Wow, you really need to think this through and get some help from family/friends. This is a huge burden for you to carry alone. Please do not feel that you are dropping this burden on him by telling him the truth. It is just that you received the message before he did, just because you are the female and it is carried in your body - not his. This must be a tremendous strain on you. You need to talk to him and his family and work something out. It may seem uncomfortable and straining to reach out to him for help but the bottom line is of the matter is - one day your son will be very upset and he is going to ask for his daddy. He is going to ask why he is not there to help him figure out his life. You are going to tell him that you were too embarrassed to tell his real father that both of your acts one night led to pregnancy. This is a natural thing and unfortunately condoms don't work or we get lost in a moment. So a mistake was made. Don't make another, for your son's sake.

You need to tell him slowly but carefully-he needs to know, it is just as much responsibility for him as it is for you-a baby can not grow up without a dad-it's absolutely not fair at all to the child-this may sound weird but you need to get married and raise the child together so the child doesn't grow up wondering what it would be like if he didn't have a dad.

You have to tell him. if you have this baby, how will you be able to live your life telling your child a lie? you have to stop thinking of how this might affect him or you for once. think of that child that is growing in your womb. do you want him or her to be fatherless and grow up thinking that he/she doesn't have a father? I know a lot of people will be judging you and he might not react in the way that you want him to, but that baby is half of him so he has a right to know regardless of anything! how can you sleep at night? how will you be able to sleep when those pretty eyes look back at you and ask you who his/her father is? what will you do then? I think that's worse than telling this guy from england that he's the father of your unborn baby. you can't undo the past, but what you can do is change tomorrow by making the right decisions now. this baby isn't just yours, he/she is also his. so please try to gather up some courage and tell him. if you don't, I'm sure that when you look back at all of this, you'll regret that you didn't.