I've been in love once and I've only ever met 3 other guys who I could see myself with. I don't like "bad boys" and I don't like your traditionally good-looking guys! but I seriously have been hurt by one guy so bad I just don't think ill ever find love like him again.the other 3 guys they liked me for awhile but I just wasn't enough for them but they were exactly what I was looking for this always happens!
A guy who I really like and I know I could grow to feel more and more for them always seem to move on as I'm not what they want! I'm pretty I'm not ugly at all so I know that's not the problem. I'm funny,im caring,loyal,honest and just a sweet fun girl to be around I know all this and so do my guy friends.
But what are they looking for am I ever going to be enough for someone I like ? am I ever going to love again as I can't see it happen as they just seem to want more than me and I can't be more than me and I can't pretend to love someone because they love me ! am I ever going to be in love again please help as I have giving up on guys now that I feel ill never have it again or be enough to love
I think that once you are ready to love again, you will know and you will be ready to find the right person to date. It may not seem like you will find someone at this point, but you will. But, you have to allow yourself to heal from the wound of the guy you loved. If you don't allow yourself to heal, you may have to wait a long time to be ready again. Also, when you feel you are ready, don't be afraid to get out there again because that's where you meet people. I think what you're looking for is a "soul mate." This is someone that completes you. The only way to find him is to keep yourself open to it happening. You have got to stay open and not give up, but first allow your wounds to heal so you can be ready to open up again. I went through a relationship breakup that took me 4 years to heal, and as soon as I healed, I was ready for love again! That's when I met my current girlfriend of 3 years! Good luck and keep an open heart! :)
Im over him but I do love him and always will.and I've met guys just as great as him since but they all go after awhile so now I just think nobody will ever love me back - 6 months ago
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Maybe they just weren't the right guys for you - 6 months ago
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They were right for me I just wasnt right for them and that's the problem ill never be right for a guy I like - 6 months ago
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Well, if that's what you believe, then that's probably what will happen to you - self-fulfilling prophecy. - 6 months ago
your young still you have plenty of time. that being said if you know how great you are then it should be easy to focus on showing that to a guy, and if the right one fits with what you have to offer then he'll stick around. Its not a matter of something that you are doing wrong, just don't give up hope. I am a firm believer that there is someone for everyone.
But I do think someone will love me again and I think I will love someone again I just don't think the person I will love and the person who will love me will be the same person because I've found people I want and they lose interest and that will happen again or I just can't see me meeting a guy I'm head in hells in love with and he is the same :( - 6 months ago
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It seems you've lost faith already, bring it back. Love will find you. I know its been said but its true - 6 months ago
You've already gotten some good advice so I'm not going to repeat it but just say I agree with what has been said so far. As for your concern that the guy you love and the guy that loves you not being the same person (and at the same time, let's not forget that!), my only "advice" is that it will come when you least expect it. EVERY woman I know that is in a loving committed relationship (including myself) had it happen when they least expected.
Examples? I broke up with a guy because I wasn't looking for anything serious and I knew he was. Like 2 days later another guy asked me out after we discovered we both felt we were too young (18 and 19) to be in a relationship and just wanted to have fun with someone who wouldn't turn around and want a relationship from us. 9.5 years later that guy is my husband, lol.
My sister broke up with this guy and realized she had spent so much time in serious relationships and was always trying to change herself for that guy. It was never really a conscious choice she made, just something that sorta happened once they became involved. So she resolved herself to not date AT ALL for several months to a year, so that she could really search her soul and figure out who SHE is. Not "her with some guy". Just her. Like a week later she told me she had met this really cool guy who ordinarily she would want to date because he seemed so perfect for her but she was determined NOT to throw away her plan so she was NOT going to go out with him. But she could still talk to him, right? Like a month later she was like, "CRAP! I think we're living together!" Lol. 6 years later they are still together and only reason they aren't married is because my sister is fundamentally against the institution of marriage, lol.
I could go on an on. You're still young and dating isn't just about being in love. Being in love is GREAT, no denying that. But the people we date that we don't love are just as important as those we do. They all help to make us into the person we need to be when we finally meet that special someone, so that we are ready for them and they help us figure out what it is we really want and need so that when that someone comes along, we know it. So stop worrying about finding love and just go out and HAVE FUN.
If the absolute worst happens and you NEVER find love (which is unlikely but always possible) at least you can look back on your life and know that you had fun, rather than look back and see nothing but despair and misery. Not to mention that it's hard to love someone who has given up on love or feels they are not enough to ever be loved.
whatever you do DO NOT CHANGE A THING! the guy that you are waiting for will love you for who you are and if you try to change that.you might meet him and he won't even see you for who you are because you changed things for other guys.don't wait for the one you can live with.wait for the one you can't live without! good luck and remember that other girls are feeling the same way :) hope I helped
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