How do you tell your ex-best friend you still care about her but her boyfriend is a mistake?

She's no longer your best friend, and it sounds like you aren't listening to each other. If you don't believe her, she probably doesn't believe you. Since you're not a part of their relationship, it's impossible for you to know how he treats her, and she might not appreciate your speculation about it. Most people don't like it when you insult their loved ones.

If you're genuinely trying to look out for your friend, sit her down and talk with her in a civil manner about your concerns. Make it clear that you're not trying to break them up, and that you are only talking to her about it because you care about her long-term happiness.

Well, honestly, I would stay out of it if I were you unless she is having a problem with him. It might be very tough to do this, but I think that if your relationship is already on the rocks, so to speak, she may not see your disapproval of her boyfriend as a helpful tip from a friend. She may see it as disapproval towards her since he is her choice of a boyfriend at this time. As people, we all need to learn from our mistakes, and we don't always listen to advice. A friend of mine just got married to someone that I disapprove of because I think she is just using him, but I did not tell her that because I know she would not have listened to me anyway and she would probably have just doubted and judged my motives. So, I wished them the best of luck and just made an inward vow to try to be there for her if they do not make it as a couple. I think the best thing a friend can do is just be there to catch their friends if/when they fall. That's my advice. I'm not sure if it helps or not or whether you feel it's appropriate for your situation, but I do wish you the best of luck with it anyway!

I think when your friend is with someone you really don't like and your friend knows you don't like them then they are only trying to get to you or as horrible as it sounds lose you as a friend. You should have the courage to go up to your friend and tell her the truth of how you feel or she will never know until they finish. Your best chance is if you tell her look I don't like your boyfriend at all ever sine you have been with him you have been leaving me and acting a right bitch towards me. If I was with someone you didn't like then I think that you would tell me and I would do something about it. But in this situation it seems that you chose your boyfriends over your best friends which is low. Before long if you keep treating your friends like this then you won't have any.
I've been in the same situation and what I just said worked.
try it you will never know if you don't

Sounds exactly like me. Her parents have problems, well she has problems and she is really needy for a guy to get attention from. She feels like she has to buy him expensive gifts and do sexual stuff for him. He is a huge jerk, but I can't ever tell her that. He makes her act like she's better than anyone else and she always is like you wouldn't understand you don't date/have a boyfriend. I think you can't tell her. She won't believe you, she will think you are ust jealous. And I know you care about her and that's really admirable, but I don't think its any of your business. That sounds harsh but I don't mean it harshly. She needs to learn for herself. She will nevr learn fi you point it out. She needs to get hurt before she will learn. I know that's awful but you need to sit back and watch her get heartbroken. You can help her get through it. After she gets ove it she will be able to pick a guyy who will like her for her.