So do guys only want sex? Not love?

Yes, men can actually love women. It's possible for women to use men for sex, too. Not all people are strictly out for sex, though. People go through phases of desire, which means that some people you encounter will only want sex, some will want a relationship, and some won't want anything at all. Everyone is different in that regard.

I've loved my girlfriend for 3 years, and we have only had sex twice. It's because I have had commitment issues. We both wanted a committed relationship with each other, but I had been in a serious relationship that hurt me so deeply that it took me 4 years to get over the pain enough to be able to make a commitment to her. Also, since making a commitment to her, I have pulled away and run away from her so many times (in my heart and otherwise) out of fear, that we have not been able to truly make things work yet. Things are getting better between us, and I love her now more than when I met her 3 years ago, but I know it's definitely not about the sex between us. The sex is absolutely fantastic between us, but I think that being with the most beautiful, awesome woman of my dreams is what is the most fulfilling thing for me. Yeah, don't get me wrong. I was definitely a playboy in my time but only because I wasn't ready for finding the love of my life yet at that time! Now that I have, I wouldn't trade all the sex in the world for it! :)

There's another statement that goes along with that one, "Girls need love to want sex, guys need sex to feel loved."

I think it's important to understand that guys do need this to feel like the relationship is worth pursuing. Even though there are guys that make it into a cheap contest, all men by nature need it to feel like the relationship is credible.

However, that doesn't excuse lying and deception to get it. When guys finally understand this part of themselves and the needs of girls, they can actually participate and commit to a compromise to make the relationship work.

But I do believe it's just as important that the girl be willing to compromise too. It wouldn't be right that the guy be made to give up all his emotion and nature to keep a girl happy, that would not make for much of a relationship.

Guys by nature want sex, and that primal need can control them in ways they have never considered if they don't think about it.

But as I said, when a guy is in control of himself, when he knows his weaknesses and his strengths he can be a receptive, caring person that a girl needs to feel loved. Which in turn should foster the loving relationship and the intimacy the guy needs.

Simply put, guys who lie, cheat and steal are out of control. They don't have the discipline to be productive so they break ethics to "survive". Guys who make the effort and are honest are deserving of their wants and needs.

The same statement applies to girls.

I'll tell you what, I use to not only care about sex. I'm still a nice guy, but after two relationships where I opened up and got hurt I'm not really looking to get into another relationship so quickly. Thus I'm dating and yes I would love to have sex. So in some sense I want sex without a relationship. Although, I wouldn't lie to you to get in your pants. I personally would let you know I was not looking for a serious relationship. Then you could decide whether or not you would like to sleep with me. I possibly could fall in love again, but I personally think it's a good idea for me to hold off on love right now in my life. I just want to have fun. :)