What to do if you catch your wife cheating on you

I would do an investigation. Put something on the computer that tracks her key strokes. You can get it at best buy. Don't accuse her though because it might just make her be a little more sneaky in her game. Also check the phone bills to see if she is talking to him. Here are a few things to watch out for?

Behavioral changes
- Joins a health gym or weight reduction clinic.
- Tanning salon visits.
- New hairstyle.
- Wears hair spray, colognes & perfumes more often.
- Excessive buying of new and different clothes.
- Gets laundry done independently.
- Buys sexy underwear or lingerie.
- More frequent bathing and more careful grooming.
- An unexplained indifference or aloofness in the relationship.
- Spontaneous plans or events that do not include you.
- Cheater is often distracted and daydreaming.
- Asks about your schedule more often than usual

Tips to catch a cheater
Set them up in a bar or gym or place they frequent by using one of your friends as prey.

Press the re-dial on the phone or *69. This is an effective way to find out who they’ve been calling.

If you suspect that your partner is involved in an online affair or excessive usage of internet pornography, monitor their online activity using the latest technology available. There are many software applications that record every keystroke on your computer without slowing it down or changing its performance.

Be aware of any close platonic relationships. Most friends will not approve of the cheater's ways but will cover for them. Some friends will actually help the cheater by providing an alibi for the cheater. The cheater's friend will assist the cheater out of loyalty stemming from a friendship.

If you suspect the cheater is actually cheating at home while you're away, make false plans to be away one weekend and stay at a local hotel. Park down the street from your residence, then watch and wait. Have a non-violent plan as to what you intend to do if your suspicions are confirmed.

**IMPORTANT NOTE: The cheating man must NOT know that you suspect him/her. Although it is difficult, you must still treat the cheater the same way as you did prior to suspecting him/her of cheating. Give the cheater plenty of room to hang himself/herself.


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um.Well you have to decide soon because once that baby turns 1yr old I think you are stuck.Just go to a marriage counselor ! Easy and painless! but if you want to know what I think you should do right now I would break up because it might just get worse :-(

Pray! It wouldn't hurt to get "The Five Love Languages" and read it with her, discussing what you learn. She is missing something from your relationship that the other guy is giving her, whether healthy, or not. You might even want to watch Tyler Perry's "Why Did I Get Married?" with her and discuss what comes up after the movie.
The fact is that she is looking outside her marriage for something she would be getting inside it. If she has a need, even if she doesn't know what it is, she should be communicating with God first, then you. A woman can have guy friends, but a wife should not be going behind her husband's back. If nothing physical is happening, which a kiss is physical intimacy of a marital kind, she is still emotionally detaching herself from you and attaching herself to him. Either she made the commitment to be married to you, for better or worse, for life, or she held out an escape clause that she is following through on, with him. Escape clauses have to be dealt with in a gentle, kind, firm manner. They either have to be rejected or utilized by the person holding them, and all you can do is prayerfully help her, because God is probably the only one who can change you, and her, in a manner that will bring faithfulness, for life, into your relationship in the way it is needed.

Hey man I've gone through that. I was married to this girl and she had just a friend like that. Well I ignored it and just hoped for the best. Unfortunately she was cheating on me with him and then she left me one month later. I never thought that she was cheating because we had just gotten married one month earlier. My suggestion is to tell her that you don't trust that guy and if she wants to save the marriage break things off with him. If her marriage is more important than that friendship things are good, but if she would jeopardie her marriage over her friendship with him then I'm afraid to tell you there may be more than a friendship with him.

My close friend is going thru the same; fortunately for him, he doesn't have any babies. He's been married for 8 years, and by accident he picked up the phone to make a call, and the wife was on the phone; amazingly enough, he picked up the phone while the other guy was telling the wife how he wanted to get 'freaky' on her.Of course wife denied all of it by saying that it was a friend from high school and that's how they joked, but come on.i got friends from high school that are married now, and we don't joke like that; cause he really loves the wife, he tried counseling, he tried the church pastor, but even the church pastor said, 'son, you deserve better." hahaahahah
So yea, he is in the middle of the divorce now, and well, he makes good money so he will lose a lo of money in the divorce.
As for your case---question is, what does your gut feeling say? IF you believe teh wife is cheating on you, then are you ready to divorce and lose lots of money? (this assumes you live in the usa and you got a good financial life). Also, you could amicably separate, and well, date other women and still be a father figure to your kids. Of course, if you don't have much of a dating life, you can say with the wife til the kids get older, then separate. Bottom line is that thsi will be nagging you for a while.maybe nothing happened between the 2, but is hard to say.
In your case, you have to think what's best for the kiddo.and then take action, but also think of each consequence for whatever act you decide to do.