I was once married to my girlfriend and she left me for another guy two weeks after we were married. We have been talking for the last year and a half and she said that she was sorry and made a huge mistake. I love her still so we were working on getting back together. I found out today that she is 6 weeks pregnant and it is the other guys. I don't know what to do someone please help.
Wow, that is a very sticky situation. You have to ask yourself, what you are willing to deal with. have you both discussed what her reason for leaving you were? have those reasons been resolved? Do you want to deal with the baby's father if you decide to get together again? A child makes this really sticky because there will be parents and a co-parent (you) if you decide to be with her.
Dont set yourself up to be played with again. Find out where her head is at, can you trust her again? Is she sincere about rebuilding a relationship with you or is she using you as a pawn? Be very careful and communicate.
I would not get back together. The whole situation is far too complicated to work in the long term unless you are incredibly dedicated to this woman (who left you, two weeks after the wedding).
There are a lot of things that would be very hard things to do but if you didn't it wouldn't work out.
1). Are you prepared to forgive this woman? And remember that forgiving is not forgetting. This will always be there to seperate you. Can you trust her? She doesn't seem to hold any value in the sacredness of marriage, so what about a relationship that isn't even as dedicated as that, what's to say she won't do it again?
2). Since there's a baby involved it's all the more complicated. Would you be able to see the child as yours or would it always be a sign of her lover? Are you willing to contact this man regularly and deal with their drama for the rest of your life?
For your own sanity, leave her alone. She has done nothing to truly show you that she is sorry and REALLY wants to work on your broken relationship. Let her and her baby's father start their own family and you move on to greener pastures.
I know people who have entered into these situations, unfortunately. It was the worse mistake of their lives. Each time that you look at that baby and have to deal with that kid's father, you will hate your ex even more.
let her be, do you have kids? are you willing to raise another mans child and deal with the drama attached to the situation. if you are single unattached fatherless man that let that broad go. If you have kids and or okay with raising another man's child and treat that baby as if it is your own than that is really big of you and you really love her so pursue it. If your not sure or you know you wouldn't than go. the child is innocent in all of this so if she has it then you need to bow out, with your dignity and heart just a little broke and not smashed like it will be if things get to crazy.
I would suggest that you give her your blessing to be with the child's father and pray about everything else. God utilizes everything for His purposes but, we have to listen to Him to learn what that is. While you have given your heart to her, she obviously is unable to reciprocate, and that means a lot of baggage comes with your relationship. Give God time to show you if you have a role in her future, and what that role is.
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