I've been thinking about it and I know not all but I am wondering how many women that have turned lesbian did it because they got tired of being treated like crap by all the guys they have ever been with or the majority of guys they'd been with and or just found that guys couldn't be as sensitive, caring, open and such as another woman would be to them.
Update: Alright apparently I messed up on how I worded it or something, I know that this is not the case for all, I was really only asking how many feel as though this applies to them, not whether or not it's something from birth or that they are just that way.
A month ago
I don't know from personal experience, but I know a few girls who are lesbians or bisexual, and I've heard different things from them.
One of the girls (who is a lesbian) was severely abused by her father and brother for years. She's been with guys, but she feels like she can't trust them. Now, she questions whether or not her past influenced her sexual preference.
And another girl was going out with a really controlling guy until he moved out of state, so she decided to experiment with other girls because she thought they would be more sensitive. She actually says being bisexual was her choice.
But my best friend is bisexual, and I know two other girls who are lesbians, and they all say it wasn't a choice for them.
OK - if I had the opportunity to be solely lesbian, I definitely would and it would be because of the aggression I experience with men. But, I don't think that if I wasn't attracted to women, that a man could change me.
It is proven that being gay or lesbian is genetic. A recent study came out that compared brains of straight men and women to gay men and women. Gay men and hetero women have the same brain size and gay women and straight men have the same brain size.
It is also proven that you can appear male and actually have the sex chromosomes of the opposite sex.
Homosexuality, or heterosexuality, is not a choice.
People don't "turn" gay, they may well allow themselves to act upon their feelings for the same sex. This could be triggered by bad male experiences I guess but the feelings for women will have always been there.
I have to admit that I am bisexual. I remember being in my high school years and admiring how beautiful woman are. I didn't act on those desires until my early 30's, with my husband's knowledge. . .and yes. . . .his encouragement. ;) If I wasn't married now, I am not convinced that I wouldn't be exclusive to women. I don't think men, and their aggressions, can change a woman to become lesbian. I do think, however, that if the desire is there, that the female bond and sensitive relationship is not one that men can replace.
All the lesbians I know of have always been lesbians. Now, they have been in some messed up relationships with men but just as gay men get married trying to cover up their real sexuality, it didn't turn them gay or lesbian.
Actually, I was a sweet boyfriend. My fault was that I was TOO nice at times. I treated the girl I thought was my girlfriend very well, and she still cheated and messed around; personally I'm inclined to think that all those issues she had OUTSIDE of "us" were what made her choose the path she took.
I've been hurt by tons of girls. It doesn't make me even the slightest bit interested in guys, even the "sensitive effeminate guys (not that all effeminate guys are gay, or all sensitive guys.)" I still love women, even though they're extremely rare, and sometimes difficult to discern from the girls.
I doubt that ten years from now I'm going to be having sex with guys, as much cruelty as I've gotten (and will have) from so called women. And I don't think it's "cruelty" alone that always influences that person to make that kind of decision, though who knows. you could be right some of the time. it could be; but it's certainly not always the catalyst.
guys seem to think lesbians are so hot, but they can't even date them for very obvious reasons. so why I mean it's so um well I just don't get it!
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