How can I believe my man when he tells me I'm hot, but looks at girls much hotter in my opinion?

For some reason when women think a man thinks another woman is attractive that must mean he no longer finds her attractive. That's not true.

The root of the problem, if you can even call it that, is that you're feeling jealous and/or envious and you project your feelings of inadequacy onto him for how it makes you feel. This just human nature, so I wouldn't spend to much time dwelling on it.

All you need to know is that sure they might turn his head, but when they're gone you're the one he's still with and he still likes you just as much as he did before he saw the other woman.

Okay, I just looked at your profile & the picture.

Believe me when I say that they are not just saying you are hot.
YOU are very pretty.
I would not say you are the prettiest in the world because there is no such thing.
Someone will always look better than the prettiest.

Ugly duckling?
You were probably teased, and that's normal.
Everyone is teased early on.
Then people probably saw you as unapproachable because you are so pretty.

But you have the right idea. If he's with you, he has to like what he sees.
Don't get me wrong.
Even married men find women attractive, so that's nothing.
If you want him to stop, you don't want him to be a man.
I'm sure you find other guys attractive.
As long as neither of you pursue, I think everything would be fine.
Good Luck Pretty Girl!


Sincerely,
A Loving Black Man

For some reason when women think a man thinks another woman is attractive that must mean he no longer finds her attractive. That's not true.

The root of the problem, if you can even call it that, is that you're feeling jealous and/or envious and you project your feelings of inadequacy onto him for how it makes you feel. This just human nature, so I wouldn't spend to much time dwelling on it.

All you need to know is that sure they might turn his head, but when they're gone you're the one he's still with and he still likes you just as much as he did before he saw the other woman.

No one can give you an answer to that. You have to accept who you are and accept when your husband tells you that you are hot. How you feel about yourself is a self-esteem issue. Only you can control that.

I can't really see your question here. It's clear you have a severe issue with your self-image and you ought to work on that with your husband and possibly a therapist, someone who can help restore it. We all have times in our lives where we need help, so don't feel ashamed.

Besides, it isn't a matter of believing your man, the problem is you don't believe YOURSELF.

I got told this right after this guy said I love you too me, he says yes he is going to look at women with this or that but that not matter he said. he said I only see you, and care about you. So don't take it to heart, guys are going to be guys.