How can I get rid of this anger?

scream in a pillow

Your problem isn't whether you may be gay or straight.that isn't a problem in and of itself. That doesn't really matter. What is important is that control your anger. It is obvious that your anger is clouding your mind and your thoughts. Don't let your emotions completely overtake your thoughts. It is normal for them to mix. Sometimes your thoughts will be stronger than emotions, and sometimes the opposite, but in the end there should be a balance between both. If you find yourself mostly angry, and that affects how you are seeing and reacting to the rest of your world, then you allowing your emotions to overpower your thoughts.

When you get angry, stop. Stop what you are doing, stop what you are saying. Stop what you are thinking. Clear your mind for a moment and focus. Take a few deep breaths. Take a walk, take a shower.whatever works for you to clear your mind. Now approach the aggrivating circumstance from a difference vantage point. Try to see all sides to it instead of just your own.
Try to understand why its upsetting to you. Take the opposite stance for a moment and see if it conflicts with your reasoning.

Focus on a resolution instead of the feelings of anger themselves. Sometimes we get so caught up with just being angry, that we forget to just fix it and move on. Sometimes through action of resolution you'll find that the anger itself subsides and is replaced with pride of action and accompllishment. Sometimes it is replaced by peace of mind due to your action.

In any case, the fact that you are getting angry doesn't really have anything to do with whether you are gay or not.unless for you, the thought of being gay angers you.in which case you are chasing your tail.you're caught in a catch22. That is by choice. you get angry and your true tendencies come out, which anger you.sending you into the spiraling vortex of emotional upheavel. Relax. Take a deep breathe and get out of your circle and see your emotions from an outside perspective.

First calm down.
I don't want to lose you to the dark side.

I don't understand how being mad could make you feel gay, but what I can tell you is what ever someone has done to you, it was out of ignorance.
But you can't let someone else's foolish-ness change who you are.

You are not gay! Maybe you feel as though you have the tendencies of a female, but that does not mean your gay. That is the signs of a metro-sexual. & that's perfectly fine.

Testosterone is different in everybody.
So what if yours isn't as high some of the others.
Or so what that you were raised differently then others.

Dont let your anger have your mind.
I too have a anger problem & sometimes my mind gets taken away by the anger.
We are kind of like the HULK.
But I try to control it & find ways through it when I sense it.

I hope that helped.
Good Luck


Sincerely,
A Loving Black Man

dont have any bad feeling towards them and . try to find out what is that is bothering you. your anger will come down