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Repeating friend problems that I don't know how to handle anymore?

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(Age:18 to 24) When: 2 months ago

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Hello. I just came across this site and though it would be a good tool to get advice from other who don't know me. There is this girl that I have been friends with for three years and I constantly find myself in these hot and cold moments with her. I am a very giving and nice person by nature, so I don't really know if she was a true friend to begin with. All my other friends constantly tell me that she is bad news and that she is only going to continue to hurt me, yet I can't seem to let go. The latest situation that occurred is when she completely blew me off at a time when I really needed her the most. I have been going through some personal problems and she promised me that she would come with me to an appointment that I have but completely blew me off and has no remorse for it. She has been going through her own troubles lately as well, which is why I have not put my foot down on the situation. She is in a very abusive relationship, where the guy has got her in the hospital (which I found out from her mom.she has yet to tell me), has damaged her car, verbally and emotionally puts her down and so forth. I know he has a BIG reason to do why she is the way she is now. I know that when someone is in a abusive relationship they are pretty much blind sided to what is right and wrong and can not function like a normal person. Should I use this to justify how she has treated me? This is not the first or second time she has blown me off. I try to move on and do my own thing with my other friends, but she gets jealous when she sees pictured of me with my other friends and tries to retaliate by avoiding me as well and deleting pictures of us and stuff on the social networking sites. I am completely torn as to what I should do. I continue to think about the good times that we have shared and the things that we can relate to.but all in all, should I just keep the memories and let go for good? I do care about her very much, but I hate the feeling of not being appreciated and only being important to her at her convenience. Please help if possible =(=(

Update: I want to thank the both of you for your feedback. For my own closure and relief on the situation, I decided to e-mail her. I prefer to talk over the phone or meet up, but she was avoiding my calls. .yet to get a response from the email, but we'll see 2 months ago


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totalcaca (Age:18 to 24) When: 2 months ago

It sounds like this girl doesn't have her act together, and I don't think it's because she doesn't respect you, I think it's because she doesn't know how to handle herself 'properly' towards you. I also think you should really put you're foot down, and tell her how you feel about this relationship she has with that loser who beats her up. Someone's got to be daddy and show her what's what. That is, of course, if you want to stick your head in other people's dung.

Remember, unless you man up and tell her what you don't like about what's going on, she's not gonna learn anything.

Hope this helps.

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(Age:Under 18) When: 2 months ago

Don't deal with this anymore. You're an adult. She's playing foolish adolescent games. Leave now so she can get herself together. The only way she can get help is to help herself. No one will be able to tell her what to do. You need to be with friends who are supportive and are there for you. She's only looking out for one person: herself.