So, basically, just like the question says, that's what I'm asking, should I tell him. it's not a disability that it's so obvious, but I'm just a little bit slower than most people on some things.
Just tell me please, should I tell him, because sometimes when he's making jokes I don't understand them, but I just pretend to laugh.
I know where you are coming from. I have a learning disability and it some times takes me longer to understand certain things as well. If you are far enough along in the relationship where you feel that it is worth your time to continue with the relationship, then yes in private tell him what's going on and he will understand if he is a respectable guy. If he does not understand then he is not worth your time
O.k. I have issues: Major Depression, Panic Disorder and Generalized Anxiety disorder. I understand. I personally think that you should, like not when your out but alone. Just tell him whats going on and he should listen.
You definitely need to tell him about it if you want a future relationship. Be honest with him. If he loves you, it won't make a bit of difference in the way he feels about you.
My friend I went to high school with is dislexic and he used to read out loud in class and get mad when he misread a word. people would laugh and sometimes what he said sounded funny, too. but nobody caught on that he was dislexic, so nobody knew to leave him alone when he messed up when reading out loud. but he was also a bright kid, he just had a problem with reading out loud. Then when the teacher stopped calling on him as much, that's when I think he told her, or she picked up on it. So even just hinting at whatever bothers you might steer you guys in the right direction. you gotta work with what you got, and maybe he might want to help you with it in some way. but I definitely agree with straightman.
Do you want a real relationship or a pretend one? If you want a real relationship tell him when you don't get a joke. You don't have to tell him your "disability", just be honest with him about what he says and what you think. I know a number of very intelligent people that don't get a lot of jokes.
You should definitely tell him. don't make a big deal out of it because you probably don't want him to pity you too much. just say that its harder for you to understand. who knows, maybe he already realizes when you do and don't understand his jokes. he should be able to handle it - or he is just not worth your time or energy, sweetie.
Like i've said before in other answers, you have to be honest with your boyfriend! honesty is what you need the most in a relationship and you shouldn't keep things from your boyfriend. if he loves you, he won't be bothered by it and will accept you for you. so don't worry and just be completely honest with him, believe me, if he can't accept you for who you REALLY are, then he doesn't deserve you.
I think it depends how long you've been going out. if you were together for like 1 month and you don't know if it'll last I probably wouldn't say anything about a disability. But don't pretend to laugh @ jokes you don't get either. I do that sometimes too but it's not really good.
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