Why do some people think that they can ask whatever they want and not be judged for it? Or that they shouldn't be judged for it?
We all make judgments about other people all the time, but we usually keep them to ourselves. But when you ask a person (or in this case a semi-anonymous public forum) a question, you are asking them to make a judgment on the content of your question, and the content of that question naturally says a lot about you.
I honestly don't ask people to judge me when I ask a question.
I don't like people having instantaneous judgements of who I am based on a single statement.
Sometimes you have to look at the 'whole picture', the essence of a person can not ever be wrapped up in a single answer or question.
Honestly, when I ask a question, sometimes I seek advice, sometimes just curious what people will say, try to refrain from being to frank with my own bias and views, because I honestly believe we all have our own beliefs whether or not we will admit them is another story.
I see some questions that I feel are really dumb and sometimes I ask questions and then realize later that they are dumb questions. It's whether or not people change their behaviour that matters.
But sometimes since it is a semi-anonymouse public forum such as you have stated, it doesn't really tell a lot about you, you 're hiding behind a mask of a mask. a facade if you will. instead of that facade that you betray in the real world, this is just another facade but in a somewhat non-real world setting.
reality is, people make mistakes. reality is, people aren't that simple.
hope this is an informative synopsis of my thoughts on your question. I like your questions by the way, very philosophical ^_^
Awesome response. I try to not be TOO judgmental when I respond. And when I do include a judgmental statement I really do try to make it in such a way that the poster thinks about what they are saying rather than just flaming or insulting them. My intention really is to produce the most positive outcome and sometimes I think we all need a little kick in the pants when we are being foolish. My wife does a pretty good job of giving me a swift kick in the bum enough to sort of keep me in line. - More than a year ago
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Thanks! ^_^ No, judgements are interesting I suppose, even if someone counters my views, I still find it invirgorating to challenge or to just agree. I'm glad ^_^ that's what wives are for! lol. - More than a year ago
I think everyone has a right not to be judged. Obviously, we do judge people, but how often are those ideas proven to be correct? That's why I try to be totally free of it, at least until I can really know someone.
Now, I'm not perfect, and I do sometimes judge people before I should. But at least I'm trying.
My reasoning is this: we don't know a person unless we are that person. We can't say what they have been through, what the circumstances are really like, etc. And truthfully, no one has a right to say what someone else should or should not do in their lives (unless we're talking murder or something, ok?).
Melissa, thinking about your answer, most people don't want to be judged, but I don't think it is a right. In fact, I think it impossible to not make judgments, and it is necessary for our survival. This doesn't mean you have to condemn the person, but you do have to decide what type of person they are and how much you could trust them. Of course our judgment should be subject to revision with additional info. - 11 months ago
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I think people should accept that what we do and say is a representation of what we are and we should be sensitive to how we are representing ourselves. - 11 months ago
I respectfully disagree. We all judge each other all the time. We could not interact in a safe and effective means if we were incapable of forming relatively accurate judgments about other people. - 3 months ago
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Define relatively accurate? What I mean is, and speaking from a Christian viewpoint, were all the same in his image and mind. Who are we to judge others? That doesn't mean we won't judge, but it means that ultimately, we really have no authority to do so. What does work in a judgmental "state" is our legal system. - 3 months ago
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