Post reading depression?

then don't read romance novels...lol

I know how you feel. I see people all day long hugging and kissing each other and I look at myself and I relize I haven't had a girlfriend or any girl who really cared if I existed in 3 years. The thing with Romance Novels, tv shows/movies is that they depict how everyone wishs there lives are supposeed to be like and try to make it seem that its easy for people to find true love. Its a cruel world when your alone and it seems everywhere you go people are all over each other which makes you feel even worse if you have no one.

This happens to me also. It also happens when I watch a movie in which every hero has a girlfriend. Till date I never had any girlfriend, crush or any girl who likes me.

I think every single boy/girl has this same feeling which you are talking about.

Romance novels are kind of like porn.

In porn, the women are made up to look spectacular. They have perfect lighting, and are sexual dynamos. Men who watch porn obsessively can have their standards suddenly shift to far beyond what any average woman is capable of achieving.

In Romance novels, the men are written up to be a near-perfect mix of sensitive and masculine. They know just what to say, and how to say it. And they all have washboard abs, unlimited funds, and are alpha males in regards to everyone else. Women reading these novels can have their standards shift to far beyond what any man can achieve.

Interestingly, they both have the same initimidation factor for the opposite sex.

Women see the porn stars and know they cannot match the women's looks, behavior, and 'athleticism'. After all, the porn star is packaged and sold by professionals; everything is set up to make her beyond what is humanly possible. And they know large numbers of men watch porn, leaving them with doubts that they can keep their men's attention because of the differences between her and the porn star.

Men feel the same way about romance novels. The guy is everything men are not. Alpha men go through women like a guy with the flu goes through tissues. Beta men know they do not have the alpha personality type, they rarely have washboard abs, and extremely few of them are billionaires. They see a woman reading a romance novel and know they cannot compete with the guy written up in there as so inhumanly perfect. So they wonder if they should even try...

I feel the worst for men who watch porn AND read romance novels... as they will never find the woman who meets his standards, and he knows if he did he would not be able to be a blip on her radar. Those must be some truly lonely guys...

Anyway, with those cheerful thoughts... what was the question?

I did appreciate the romance in Twilight but as an adult I did think it was a bad example to send to teenagers-marry the first guy you even like etc. And they're way too dependent on each other-I know he's a vampire etc but frankly Bella comes across as a bit...desperate really. The girl has no self-esteem whatsoever and she dumps her life for this guy...I know her insecurities are what a lot of girls feel but why can't there be strong heroines? The only book I've read that really has a strong heroine would be Pride and Prejudice-ie Elizabeth Bennett.

I used to feel depressed but now I realise that a lot of these books are just like a Hollywood film- girl meets boy, they don't lke each other then do they do, then they fall in love and live happily ever after. What I'm trying to say is that these are just idealised versions of love. Life is not like that at all. Women are a lot stronger in real life and these days we don't "need" a man, only "want" one. So focus on real life. Go out, have fun. Once you meet someone you like, you'll realise how life is so different and it won't matter so much

Happens to me after I see a great film or finish reading a great book. I was also totally depressed after finishing the Harry Potter series...felt like I had gotten to know the characters and knowing that I was reading the last book was a sad experience...so sad that I read it over a bonfire with a bunch of other equally obsessed friends. I still reread the books sometimes though and that makes it better.

But I think you are talking about something different--being depressed because you don't have a boyfriend and of course, reading about intense passion only adds to a feeling of emptiness since you can't really experience it. I would suggest you read less romance novels since they are usually kind of overly dramatic and fills your head with all kinds of unrealistic expectations. Try to focus on other things in your life right now: school, friends, family, goals, hobbies. You'll find love eventually and since you are only 18, there is plenty of time to find "the one." You might not be able to experience what you read now, but you will eventually and it'll be worth the wait.

I felt the same exact way after reading, Harry Potter and then again after reading Twilight a while back. lol. it sounds silly but I was really depressed anytime someone even mentioned the name of those books or I saw a preview for the movie. It was weird. but then I just got on the internet and looked at the charcters and got immursed in the books and pictures adn I got over it eventually. hope it helps.