I cannot forget about my ex girlfriend

I hope this does not crush your dreams but I think it would be best if you found someone else. She seems like she has moved on and wants to be friends, and you are just stuck, try dating I know it is hard but there is someone for you and you may pass that chance up by carrying on about the past. But you have to just move on, some people are in your life for a season and some are forever.

I agree with Dreday's comment. However, I don't know the girl, therefore it's hard to judge her true intentions, but if she's ignored you for a year until now, my guess is that things didn't work out the way she wanted with the guy she cheated on you with, and now she wants to come back to you because it's "safe". she knows you won't turn her down because you still care, or at least, she's attempting to break you down until you can't refuse her.

I understand the difficulties of getting over someone after having a relationship that long with feelings as strong as yours. It's tough...they say that to get over an ex, the average time you need is a week for every month you were together. That's roughly 7-8 months in your case. But then again, it's different for everyone. I suggest if you're not over her yet, you spend time on yourself; do what you like to do, and when you start thinking of her, focus on that hobby or hang with friends to get your mind off it. Do something constructive rather than isolate yourself only to dwell on it.

If you do choose to get back together with her, and you feel like she's really changed, remember that it will never be what it once was, (as dreday pointed out). If she cheated on your once, shame on her, but if she cheated on your twice, shame on you. Be sure she's ready to trust again before you get into anything.

Are you willing to forget what she did to you?
Are you willing to give her another chance?
Is she ready to be committed to you?
Is she emotionally stable to be in a relationship?
Will she treat you well?
Is she treating you well?

If you can't answer yes to all of these questions....i would think about it more.

I'm in a situation like that. To tell you the truth I really love this guy too and I don't care about what happened in the past and I want to try to fix things with him. If I don't try to mend things between us now....then i'm going to wonder for the rest of my life about what could have happened between me and that guy. I think i'll regret it.

So think about it. If you will regret not trying right now then try to be with her. Try mending your relationship. But if you won't regret it later then I would leave her and forget about her move on to someone that won't cheat on you.

good luck

No matter what, this relationship will never be the same. I hope you get strong and forget about his girl, and find a new beginning with someone else. If she is ignoring your calls so be it. It's for your own good and I think she knows it. When she called you it was for a shoulder to lean on. She probably brought up you and her, but she might have deeper issues that you don't even know about.

I know it's really hard to forget. Good luck

It sounds like you need to take some time to yourself and try to remember the things that made you happy before you met her. If she is not picking up your calls and only calls you when she is upset she is using you as a crutch and it is not fair to you. She knows that you will be there for her whenever she needs you, but she is not showing signs of being that same kind of friend to you. Go out with your friends and invest your time in finding yourself again. If things are meant to work out they will, but either way you have to find happiness by yourself to be able to make someone else happy.

If you truly love her despite all that she's done to you then I'd try to call her a few more times or send her some flowers with a sweet card. She made the first move, recently, by calling you. But, I'd be careful because she might just need a shoulder to cry on and knows that you'll be there. If you do go to her, you will probably set yourself back by months or years in terms of getting over her. There are a lot of girls out there that will not cheat on you, ignore you or otherwise leave you feeling this crappy. I'd suggest finding one of them instead!

She keeps playing you! Have you not realized that. Find someone that deserved you to shower with love, not that tramp. Yes I said TRAMP

I had a girlfiend for 4 years, and on that 4th year, she started 'seeing' one of her colleagues at work. Even though she said nothing was going on, I could sense the difference. I finally got the guts to break up with her, and even though it was a bit depressing at first, after 6 months, I started going out, meeting other women, and soon I realized that I had been crazy for being with that girl for that long. In your case, you need to go out and smell all the other women out there. Forget about this one, unless you want to be played on again. Move on, dude!