I have been seeing a 33 year old woman, and I'm 25 years old . We hit it off great, and things got really hot and heavy, but all of a sudden she started to say that we needed to slow things down, only to go further in saying that we should be seeing people our own age . We still cannot resist each other, and she still feels that I'm very good looking, smart, funny, the works . Yet, if she feels this way about me, and still feels compelled to remain in my life, why would she push me away to someone else ? Especially when I've conveyed to her that I want to be with her ? Moreover, how can she be okay with me seeing other girls ? I know if she was seeing someone else, it would bother me, but in her case, she says she's happy for me, but I don't know if that's genuine . Maybe it is, but I feel that we are still in to each other . If it helps, she told me early on in the courting phase that she never wanted to get too attached because she's going away over the summer . Could this have any barring ?
In addition, she is also from another country, has been married before, and was in a long term relationship after that . She got hurt from that last relationship . She might be going back to her home country after her schooling, the jury is still out on that . But she feels that I have so much more to experience such as traveling, doing more things, etc . It is almost as though she is trying to tell me what is for my own good, but what she does not realize is that I would know what is better for me more than anyone else . I feel I have shown her that I want to be with her and that I care for her, she should know that . Does this sound like something that could still be salvageable ? Is there anything I can do to show her that this could work ? She simply does not believe it is sustainable in the long run, and she has also used experiences she has heard from her friends about younger guys/older women, to try to convince me, so maybe this has something to do with it as well ?
You didn't mention how long years ? She may need healing time . And I am sure her friends are telling her your too young and will find someone your own age . You know blah blah . All you can do is stand your ground, and keep showing her where your heart and mind is . Keep living your life, and she will see you are there for the long run . If not, don't waste your life on someone that can not seem to give, or you will hurt, I did .
It definitely sounds salvageable . Time really takes a toll on us when we've been hurt, and we can only pick up the pieces and put ourselves together so many times . It sounds like she likes you a lot but is feeling herself get attached, and is finding reasons to push herself away . Such as using the age gap as an excuse . I must say, is not that big of a gap . She also may be insecure about the age gap and thinks that you'll leave her for someone your age . There are so many possibilities here, I just hope that for both of your sakes, this works out . It sounds like you both have nothing to lose and so much to gain by giving each other your all .
Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
My first date, walk in the park wouldn't be a bad thing, Just regular clothes nothing special.Watch the moon raise up or sun go down one of the other .
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
That I am sensitive and that I get shy easily? hmm Maybe a little funny.
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 3 months ago
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