Being "in love" and "having love for something/someone" and "lusting" are all different .
Lusting has to do with how whatever you want can benefit yourself . Like desire, you don't need it, you want it .
Now, having love for something is different . I have love for my friends and family, I love animals, and I love the feeling of riding my motorcycle, all differently . For my family and friends it's more of a wholesome feeling, and I have their best interest at heart . And I just love the feeling I get from riding my bike, it's different, it's what I like to do .
And being in love is different . It's like a mystery . There's emotions that arise you never knew existed . You can't easily explain them . You are most considerate of their best interest, and how you fit in with it, and vice versa . There's some kind of excitement present when you see them after you have missed them for any amount of time . And there's a level of sacrifice, sharing and teamwork, communication and joy you put in and receive from it, when being a part of it . And that makes it all worth it .
Being in love is an inner peace. A calm that doesn't move and doesn't change when the object of your affections leaves you. That feeling still stays. You don't have to look at him to know that you love him. You don't have to be near him all the time or see him all the time or even think about him all the time to know what you feel for him. That tingle feeling that lots of girls talk about when they think that are in love. Well, that feeling can fade. True love doesn't go away like that. But for the most part it's something that you have to experience
You can have crazy feelings whether you're in love or whether you're just infatuated . I don't think you can tell whether or not you are in love based on feelings alone (though they are important) .
If you want to spend ever single second with someone, think they are absolutely perfect, and are very good looking then those are signs of infatuation . But if they make you feel good, you have a great time hanging out with them, and care about them no matter what they do or how they act, those are indications that it may also be love .
I'm sure there are so many more factors .
In the end, if you're dating someone who you are infatuated with, it could turn into love . And if you're dating someone you love then that's obviously a good thing . Try out a relationship with the guy you are in love/infatuated with and time will tell what it actually is . Or what it turns into .
But what about this, there is this guy that I have feelings with, I know it still hasn't reached the level of being in love, I know it is just infatuation.. but um, it was like when I am with him, the feelings aren't there anymore, it's like I am just comfortable, and nothing else, there are no intense feelings and the like. Just plain, he is there, and I am here, we're together.. and that's it.. it's that normal? - 3 months ago
I've been with my boyfriend for two years and I think I'm in love but not for sure. He told me he loved me today and I didn't say it back I felt so...
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
I'm a pretty flexible girl, so really anywhere we could just hang out and have some fun would be fabulous. Ice skating or a carnival, maybe? NOT a movie on the first date, though; I need to get to know you, not sit next to you for 2 hours without speaking a word.(: I'd wear something I'd feel comfortable, pretty, and confident in; Jeans, a girly top, ballet flats, dangley earrings.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
Who knows?It just depends where the conversation goes.I'm pretty open, but I'm not going to spend hours and hours talking about JUST myself. (: Tell me about yourself, learn that I love to laugh and feel comfortable around everyone. Hopefully by the end of the date,you'd know my full name, and that I'm a Christian, and that I'm a loving, determined, and ambitious person. (:
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