I think people say "I love you" and have no idea what that means. I can almost write a book about this subject but I want to hear what you think. Many people say this and than treat you very differently. Remember this is love in relationships not between family. I should make a point here we do learn a lot of loving features from our family.
In my opinion, where I am in high school I see it used everyday - and not in a good way.
For example: One of my friends just started a relationship with this boy. The same day they started going out I hear them both utter the words to each other. They've only known each other for about two weeks as well.
So do I think it's overused and abused? Absolutely. People my age don't seem to grasp what love really is. I don't even fully understand it myself, as I've never been in love, but those are three powerful words that shouldn't be taken lightly. They should mean what they say and not just be used to maybe see if you can get a little something something out of the other person.
I rated another as a best answer but I have to say your answer rates #1. Everyone is looking for their true Love but only on the surface, they don't want to look past the flesh. The real beauty is on the inside maybe the reason our divorce rate is over 50% and climbing is because of this? - 3 months ago
I tell my friends that I love them all the time. Both male and female friends. It never hurts to be told that you're loved! Plus, just my outlook on life, I believe that everyone deserves respect and love from me unless they prove somehow that they DON'T deserve it. Course, I wouldn't tell someone I loved them unless we were close; people would get creeped out cause they didn't realize it's more of a universal love than a specific one, haha. It's a love for someone as a fellow human being, not a deep and personal one, if that makes sense.
However, in a relationship, I would hold back those words in their serious context. There's the casual "I love you" that I say to people I care about, then there's the real "I love you. " It just depends on how you say it: your tone of voice, your body language, that says, this is the real thing.
In Welsh, there is "brawdgarwch," which is brotherly love, the first kind of love I mentioned, and then there is "cariad," the strongest word for love, the love you have for a partner or a child. It's too bad English doesn't have as many words for love as other languages do.
And I just realized I never properly answered your question, haha. Yes, I do think "I love you" in relationships is abused. It's something you shouldn't say unless you're prepared to make sacrifices for that person, to put that person first. People use it to manipulate others, or throw it around casually...but it's so much more than that. - 3 months ago
It is most definitely abused, more in America than any where else I have ever been.....in the south american world it means so much to say those words to someone, it is a true declaration of deeply felt feelings in America we throw it around...we use the words "i love you" to hold on to people, we use it as an excuse to stay with people, we manipulate it to do our bidding pop culture is especially bad with abusing I love you and look at americas divorce rate....it's 50%!!! I love you means so little! however there is a flip side to this..... I feel like people, everyone everywhere, needs to hear I love you as much as possible.....it is good to feel loved and to know that other people love you.....so often you hear stories of people at funerals who wish that that they had had the chance to say "i love you" more often, or just one last time......
Yes it can be abused. Some people say it all the time and it loses meaning. I have made vow to save it for special occasions. It's better to come up with some other phrase you say frequently.
Thats the thing about love though. We can say that we love tv or sports or music or ice cream. We love our brothers or sisters and parents and friends. We love our dog and we love technology. What gets lost is that there are really three kinds of love.
1. Love that we have for our everyday things 2. Love that we have for friends or family 3. Being in love
I think that too often people confused the first and second kind with the third. Something else that happens is you may meet someone and really love them, but you only love them more than any other person that you have ever met. We don't know if someday someone is going to come into our lives and just take our hearts, why? Because we have not experienced true love yet. People in high school or middle school telling their boyfriend or girlfriend that they love them is probably true, they love them more than anything else in their world, they just don't know what true love is yet. Just some thoughts.
I think it is over used like sometimes when its said it just does not mean as much well I have a simple solution I speak two languages english and spanish and in spanish it just means so much more well or you can also use poetry or other kinds of stuff but yea I do believe life would be a lot easier if those words where said less since the more they are said the most trouble guys have actually expressing themselves
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