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How can I help my buddy get a woman?

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archer86 (Age:36 to 45)     When: 5 months ago
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He's a 36 year old virgin. Sad isn't it? He's not very attractive, he hasn't tried to obtain women much over the years. He has less success with women than I have(which isn't saying much). He is not going to meet that special lady at church or in public so he cannot afford to wait for something to happen. I try to convince him to hire an escort of fly to Nevada and have fun at a brothel but he insists that he has better things to spend his time and money on. Yet, he has posters of hot celebrities in his walls, he watches porn on occasion and is quick to talk about women's breast.

I don't know what to do. I don't like the idea of one of my best buddies being a virgin at such an age with no chance of him getting married. Is it possible he's a closet gay? Somebody help me on this

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Anaskathia (Age:30 to 35)      When: 5 months ago
Is HE interested in losing his virginity? Because for some people it's just not that important. It also may be that he's interested in being in love more than just "getting some". Going to a brothel just doesn't seem like the right solution to me. If he has a nasty experience, imagine how long it will take him next time!

The best thing you can do is encourage him to get out more, meet a wider range of women who have interests similar to his. He may want to try internet dating or speed dating. In any case, the emphasis here should be on what he wants rather than what you want for him.

I hope your friend finds what he's looking for. :)
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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
He is probably at that stage where it has been such a long time since he has had a relationship with a woman that he has just given up. I don't think that he is a closet gay if he is watching porn (hopefully of woman) and that he is "quick to talk about woman's breasts". I just think that he doesn't feel the need for anyone right at the moment and that he has other priorities in life other than finding a partner at the moment, so give him time to realize if he really wants a female companion in the future, when the time comes no matter how long it is, then you can help him. Thats really all that you can do for him.
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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
Be a friend by not trying to do this. I mean seriously he's already expressed no interest in you trying to get him a lady of the night. Instead you should encourage him to clean himself up so ladies don't say yuck. There's no shame in being a 36 year old virgin! If you really want to help him get a woman follow some of the tips listed in an article written called "you go to look fresh" to spruce up his appearance. Now you also got to ask yourself how much confidence does your friend have, this is perhaps why he hasn't gotten a woman yet. Follow the advice listed below and take him to a gym because this will not only help his appearance but it will make him feel good and perhaps help the confidence. well good luck.
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Question Asker I can't afford the plastic surgery to make him handsome. He's just not an attractive guy. Not fat, just not handsome. But he also has no confidence in any success with women. Perhaps it is a lost cause - 5 months ago

 
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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
Well, maybe his IS gay and wants YOU! LOL Now that would be something.

Seriously though, brothels, escorts. Wtf. That's not helpful at all. Would you really want to lose your virginity to some whore? Do you really think he's going to find a good woman to marry at a brothel? And more importantly, do you realize how many STDs those women carry?

I'd take him out clubbing, maybe get him drunk, you'd be surprised how much even the shyest, virginiest people loosen up with tequila in them. (Or they fall asleep/get into fights, let's hope that's not the effect alcohol has in him ha).

Also, hell, grab your digi cam, snap some good pics of him and sign him up on Eharmony, Match, get him on Facebook, Myspace. Online dating is the new wave, my friend. Sure, there tons of psychos on the net but but there crazy people everywhere around us.

Sign up at a gym together, you can BOTH meet some ladies there and it'll help him out buff up, never a bad thing if he's so damn ugly.

At the last resort be a good friend and join a cooking class together because nothing is gayer than that :)
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Question Asker He's too shy for clubs(lousy dancer). I get very few winks from internet sites, he gets NONE. He goes to the gym on occasion, no eyes fall on him. And finally, women look at him and go "yuck! ". I've been to a few brothels, the amount of STD's is lower than you think. And this is no attempt to find special woman. I want him to lose his virginity first before he falls madly in love with someone. - 5 months ago
 

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Austin (Age:25 to 29)      When: 5 months ago
Ask him to join GirlsAskGuys

How is that for marketing :)
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Frosty (Age:25 to 29)      When: 5 months ago
Hey Archer

You can never force anyone to do anything they don't want to do, if you are a good friend allow him to express that way he is without judgment. If you really want to help your friend set an example for him by showing him that it can work for you.

You mentioned that hadn't had much experience with women your self.

Love Frosty
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AJtogo (Age:Over 45)      When: 5 months ago
OK guy....this is why prostitution exists. It's for guys who want to get laid without the attachment, or guys who are having difficulty getting laid. Your idea of getting him to Nevada is along this line.....but if he doesn't want it for himself then why would you?
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Bduffman1234 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 5 months ago
Pay the $120 and get him laid man what kind of friend are you? Just make sure you know where your weapons is because you wouldn't your "lady" packing and have him try dating websites they've worked for all my friends
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