So how should I do this people? It doesn't matter where I sit she's always looking this direction and I see it in the corner of my eyes. I don't see her anywhere else other than in that class and she's normally with a girlfriend. The only chance I get to approach her is after class but that'll mean that I'm going to have to wait for her to come out. Oh and another thing. I'm Chinese and there is a chance that she's Jewish so I'm just wondering if there are any problems with Jewish people dating people that's not Jewish.
So how should I do this? If there are ladies out there that has been in that girls situation please I need your help
Update: I forgot to mention earlier that I have never spoken to this girl before. My apologies for the time of those I've wasted
5 months ago
Wait after class and bring up something like "Wow, that was a hard test, how do you think you did? " or "That grammar stuff is so boring, I nearly fell asleep. " Making general comments about something that you can both easily relate to is a great way to start the conversation.
After that, slowly make more conversation with her each time. Ask her what classes she has next, don't worry if you make a mistake or embarrass yourself - she'll probably just laugh it off!
As for the religion thing, why worry about it until you know if she likes you? If she really does like you, it shouldn't be a problem.
Well I think you should just casually talk to her first. Like talk about that class. Or if you miss a day ask her for the work that you missed in that class. Then you'll have an excuse to talk to her.
Well, I've been in this situation twice. One has worked and one has failed. If you really think this girl has feelings for you, talk to her casually and just ask her simple questions in the hall like "Hey I liked your history project or something. " If she really seems interested go for it, if not, move on. Hope this helps. P. S. I'm also asian and sometimes I worry that some people only go out with their nationality. But if it works out for you, Best of luck =]
Well I remember I was one in a situation just like this. I think you should wait for her after class & ask her if she likes you cause you notice her looking at you all the time & if you like her tell her you do. Hey just try it. It never hurts to try. & it sounds like she likes you cause I always looked at the guy I like for him to notice I liked him. And about you beying chinese and her jewish I don't think it matters.
Is that how that guy approached you? If he did weren't you at all intimidated or embarrassed by those straight forward questions? I really should just go up to her and confront her about it but I'm afraid to mess it up. Another thing should I wait for her to be alone or does it not matter that her friend is there? - 5 months ago
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Well I actually end up telling him because I couldn't hold it in. But if he would have came up to me and ask me I would have told him I wouldn't feel intimidated its just a question. Don't worry I think it will work out don't worry about messing up cause then it will happen. Well yeah I think you should wait for her to be alone. If she not alone then go up to her and ask her friend if you could talk to the girl for a second. - 5 months ago
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Wow I wish all girls were as brave as you because it will definitely eliminate a lot of the guessing game. So have you ever talked to the guy about what was on his mind when you were looking at him or did he not notice it at all? If he was interested why didn't he confront you? Let me compliment your bravery again because I don't think that she will do the same if I wait it out. My schools population is 90% female so maybe that's why it would be hard for her since there are so many girls around - 5 months ago
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Well I think he notice but he never really told me he notice. He kept it to himself. Well he never confront me I guess because he knew I knew he liked me seen we both looked at each other and talk and flirt. He always would ask me if I was ok and stuff like that. And you welcome I just really liked him that's y I told him if I didn't really like him I wouldn't have - 5 months ago
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Wait. So you guys talked and flirted with one another before you confronted him? I'm really sorry for wasting your time because I forgot to tell you that we have never spoken to one another before. - 5 months ago
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Yeah we talked before. But I meet him in that class. Well I think you should start talking to her. - 5 months ago
Just approach her dude if she looks at you that much she's on it! you won't get rejected. don't come across that you notice her too much and just start a casual conversation, do that a couple times then ask her out. good?
Hah, what the hell. I say just go with a cute little pick up line. My favorite is the polar bear one. "So have you ever wondered how much a polar bear weighs? " Her. No. (possibly a puzzled look) You: "Enough to break the ice, hi I'm. " I swear this has worked for me 9 out of 10 times to get an initial conversation going. Just curious if that pick up line/icebreaker would work on the ladies on this site. Would be interesting to find out.
Okay this is what I would do but you might not have the confidence to pull it off like me. So after class I'd say "Hey, what's your name? " She'll be like, "Ummm. Sarah? " "Yeah I just wanted to know because you stare at me so much, you know you're a girl and you like to look at nice things, so I'm glad I could provide that for you. BTW I'm Jack. " She'll laugh and you guys will flirt after that. This way you make it look like she likes you. But only do this if you think you can pull it off, if not, which you probably won't? If not just say, "Hey cool shoes. Not as cool as mine, but cool nonetheless. I'm Jack btw" "Hey I'm Sarah. " " So what did you get on this assignment? " "(her answer and she'll go into depth of why and how it was)" "Oh that's good, sexy and brains. Not bad" "(Her reply with thank you and her compliment to you)" "Thanks, you know what, you're pretty cool, too bad I gtg but gimme your number so I can call you. "& from there. It's on
This is probably a little too advanced for him since it seems like he still has a hard time just approaching a girl let alone doing this. I like it though, I've used it a few times. My spiel usually goes. "I couldn't help but notice you were looking at me from across the room so I thought I would come over and introduce myself. " Also the polar bear pick up joke works really well for some reason too but a lot of girls know it now. I guess because it's not perverted and cute. - 4 months ago
Well.... that is not a good way because you will seem proud and girls actually don't really like proud guys and be sure she's part of them so I disagree with you suave - 4 months ago
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That's cool American Eagle. And as for you giani you have to come off as confident and nice that's the difference between me and you. You're not willing to bust a girl's chops because you think it's bad and arrogant. It's not, girls love it, they think of it as being "sweet and funny" not "proud. " - 4 months ago
Dude approaching a girl is no big deal, carrying a conversation through would sound like hell. But before you do that get it clear in the head what you are going for.
Generally all gals (not a feminist statement), love sharp quips. You know those one liners. Just ensure they do not turn out to be religiously biased (kinda tryin a blonde joke on a blonde. That'll burn you up).
Should I approach her with her friend there or does it not matter? So there are no rules about Jewish dating others? Should I play it smooth and make it seem like it was a coincidence that I got a chance to run into her or should I just make it obvious and wait for her after class? - 5 months ago
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The rules apply if you formally ask her out. But that's not center stage at the moment; right now you would be looking for the fact whether she can actually talk and is she interested in you. To answer both you need to talk to her; if the friends there its better. Just make sure you don't look at her friend while marveling at her. - 5 months ago
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Alright so I'm picturing myself waiting for her after class. Then I go up to her and ask her if she's interested in me and if she says yes then ill tell her that I think that she's cute then ill ask her for her number or something? - 5 months ago
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Thats "CuteMe" 's guess. Asking her directly can get positive response only when you know that she is quite lavish in spreading her thoughts around, as in she is not too reserved. If she remains silent the entire time you are speaking then, you would have a hard time guessing her reactions. But whatever be the case you still have to talk to her. - 5 months ago
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Yea you're both right about one thing. I'm going to have to talk to her in order to find out. On the earlier response you said that if her friend is there that it would be better. Can you explain how it would benefit me? - 5 months ago
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I really don know the girl, but I have experienced this a number of times. The girl if not too outgoing, she feels shy when talked to alone (she of course wouldn't show, but her body language makes you feel that she is getting intimidated by your approach). But when she is with someone she knows she would speak in the same free self she usually does in class. - 5 months ago
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Ok that makes sense. Hey I hope that you were assuming that the girl and I have never spoken to one another before. Because I'm very sorry if you weren't. - 5 months ago
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Your question told me what to assume. But don't fret too much, unless you are too obnoxious for words. Nothings gonna happen ;-) - 5 months ago
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Thanks a lot for your time. Youve helped me eliminate a lot of IF, ANDs or BUTs. - 5 months ago
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Do let me know how it turns out. Talking from the other side of the world. Comments can be far too easily :-) - 5 months ago
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