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How do you deal with being the third wheel?

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LilMiss (Age:18 to 24)     When: A month ago
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I've only been in this situation once in my life and it felt awkward. Although I still enjoyed myself, I couldn't help but feel alone and out of place. We were in a movie theater and my friend was making out with her date the whole time and I just sat there, flying solo trying to focus on the movie. Has anyone else gone through this before? If so how did you deal with it?

BTW this wasn't recent, I was just thinking back about things that I've been through and what I would've done differently. Just a random question that popped up in my busy little mind lol
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Superstrength79
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Superstrength79 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 14 days ago
I would probably ask them to stop or just get up and leave (if I had driven myself there). Friends who are inconsiderate don't last as friends long in my world.

Doesn't have to be dating, but if I find I am the extra wheel, or no one is having fun or indecisive, I'll bail out of those situations as well. No reason being miserable.
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Quackpotty
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Quackpotty (Age:18 to 24)      When: A month ago
Ooh, that would be incredibly awkward. I don't even think that I'd like to sit near anyone whether I knew them or not when they're making out in the movie theatre. As far as lovebird01 says, sometimes you can't always predict some things because you don't always know the circumstances.

I was the third wheel on one occasion when I went out with two people that were going out and I didn't know (they were keeping it a secret) although it did feel weird and I didn't know why. It was strange because I could feel that something wasn't right with the situation, but I couldn't say anything without embarrassing anyone. I was with two foreigners (Swiss guy and his South Korean girlfriend) that were at the place I work and we were visiting all the sights in Cape Town. We were at Cape Point (where the Indian and Atlantic oceans meet) and I thought that I was showing them the sights of the most beautiful city in the world. Apparently not. It was fun, but it felt weird. Erg, I never want that experience again if I can help it.
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lovebird01 (Age:Over 45)      When: A month ago
No, this never happened to me. But, I guess you should have anticipated this, since you went without a date with a couple. You were kind of the third wheel from the beginning. Take your own date; that's the only way to deal with it. Or go by yourself.
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Question Asker Yeah I went because my friend begged me to because she felt funny going with this guy alone. - A month ago
Answerer Well, you did your friend a favor, so that was a good thing. I imagine it was uncomfortable for you. - A month ago
Question Asker Yeah it was but I'll never do it again lol - A month ago
Superstrength79 She felt weird, but made-out with him the whole time? Hello. - 14 days ago
 
 

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Cuckoo
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Cuckoo (Age:18 to 24)      When: Yesterday
I'm quite often the third or fifth wheel. My friends are well-intentioned to consistently single me. I don't hate 'em.
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nothing2thkof
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nothing2thkof (Age:18 to 24)      When: 29 days ago
Being the third wheel is very very awkward! I would know...lol
but I deal with it by texting! I know weird but I text my other friends.. or I usually just bring another friend with me .,.. sometimes a guy sometimes a girl... because when I bring someone along... we can ignore the kissing and lovey dovey stuff...
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Question Asker Yeah I know what you mean lol my cellphone seems to distract me from awkward situations or when I'm alone in public lol thank you! - 28 days ago

kelkay
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kelkay (Age:18 to 24)      When: A month ago
That was a bad move on your friends part. She should have realized how awkward that was going to make you and could wait until later. If she asks you to go with her then she should pay attention to you. I go out with my friend and her boyfriend on occasion and they always include me but I know to give them space and do my own thing. At the movies for example, go get a drink. At a bar, go meet some new people. At the mall, say there's a certain store you're going to run to. Or you could always bring a friend. If you give your friends some space they should respect you and not make it awkward.
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samthan (Age:18 to 24)      When: A month ago
Thats kind of rude of your friends. I sometimes go out with my best friend and her guy they are totally solid they dated for a while they aren't making out when I am around they can do that when I leave.
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