I met this great guy & we dated for a few months - it was lovely. Fun, harmless dating mingled with LOTS of chemistry, getting to know each other & no more than first base(he wasn't just after getting a bit of %$&! ) But I did the awful thing - fell for him pretty badly.
Worse? When things got to that point of 'there's potential here, do we take it further? ' I made the BIG mistake of being a drama-queen when he told me that he met the right girl at the wrong time because he was going traveling for a few months & wouldn't be able to be in touch.
Well now I hear he's just got back & I want to start things up again - I know he's still single & interested in me (ok, not just physically because he didn't get some before!) Do I make the move & initiate contact again. Or do I leave this to him? I.ee if he was still interested he'd make a move, right? Or is it a case of he who dares, wins & I should just be gutsy & take the plunge?
Scylla, don't make the first move by any means. Let him decide if he's going to pursue you. If you make the first move now, then your entire relationship will be exactly that - because it's easy for him to let you take the lead. Make him take the initiative to ask you out and make him make the effort. You want a guy to honor and cherish you for who you are, and if he doesn't see that in you, then you don't need to waste your time on him. Go about your business and definitely let him know that you are still interested, but make sure that when the ball is in his court that you don't take it any farther.
Since you are the one who initially made the mistake upon hearing of his legitimate plans to be absent, I would say that it would be a good idea on your part to initiate things once again now that he has returned. Due to your reaction earlier, this said fellow may feel as though your interest waned in his absence/is no longer present. Were you the one to take the initiative, not only would you keep him from going out on a line (and you already know that he is still interested in him), in addition to him seeing that, though you didn't react so well earlier, you are willing to help make this relationship happen. Good luck, Scylla!
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