Who is responsible for the romance in your relationship?

Lol this is a very good question. Women have a different way of expressing romance than men do. We try to do things that are more personal so that the guy knows that it was done just for him. When a guy buys a girl flowers, the gesture is sweet and thoughtful, but a girl can't help but wonder how many other girls before her got flowers from this guy. Now if those flowers were her favorite kind and favorite color, that would be a different story because it would show that the guy has payed attention to her interests. Which also goes hand in hand with remembering anniversaries and special moments. We don't care as much about what is DONE to make them romantic, like we care about WHY it was romantic, what was special about that moment that you two shared. We are sentimental and knowing that the one we love cherishes the moments we spend with them just as much as we do means the world to us.

I feel that both people in the relationship should be responsible. Any woman who loves and respects her man should not and will not be afraid to be romantic towards him. To me, it goes back to that golden rule we all learned in kindergarten "do unto others as you wish done unto you" or something like that =)
Growing up where I come from, men were always thought to be the ones who had to show how much they loved their women by brings them flowers, massage them, etc. Women always believe that guys aren't into the more "mushier" ways of showing that you care. I feel that is a man is secure with himself, he will appreciate the clever ways his woman will show that she cares.
As for me, I love showing my guy that I care. I love making dinner for him, leaving little notes for him to find, organizing our dates, I've even given a guy flowers once.

Both are! But since there's still that thought on how things were done a long time ago (the guy proposes, and makes the money while the wife stays at home) there's still that feeling to some girls that it should be done that way and that they're comfortable with it being like that rather than them doing it first. Honestly I would much rather have a guy propose and plan the dates and all of that other stuff you said because it makes me feel like he needs me and that it's his way of showing his feelings.

As for the anniversaries and songs, a lot of girls are really sentimental about things and she's going to remember a lot of that stuff just because it's really important to her because the guy and their relationship is important in her life. But yeah I agree, some girls really don't have a right to be mad if a guy forgets the little things because its just silly.

I knew this one was coming! :-)

My answer is it "should" be both. Men are typically the one's expected to be the most romantic, but I think it would be good if both individuals frequently did special things for one another.

Now me, I am guilty of sucking at romance, but then again, we both suck at it! I guess it all depends on the girl and whether or not she is willing to take that extra step and be romantic in return. So yeah, I'll work on it!

I think Its both!

Guys don't have to be the ones to first to propose. I know some girls that did that first. Guys and girls can spoil each other in the relationship. It shouldn't be one-sided.

If the girl can't remember the song, then she's forgetful. My guy remembers our anniversary date since we've been together, and its the day before his birthday. (so that kills two birds with one stone) I always forget (silly me)
It should be a Relationship: two people both working to love, lust and spoil each other.

The bad thing about romantic gestures is that whenever a guy does something nice for his lady-friend, she lets her friends know about it (probably to make them jealous, or because she really was made happy). Then every other guy is held to that standard or expected to perform better to make his love interest *really* know for sure that he likes her.

Not just about romantic gestures, but I don't like doing things that are expected of me to make someone happy. These days there is a huge expectation of the courting ritual, and generally I don't feel it's worth it. I haven't turned into someone who randomly goes around having sex and avoiding relationships. Yet, but I can see how men get tired of it all and just satisfy their own needs.

I've used some gross generalizations here, but I just wanted to point out that romance needs to be spontaneous and never demanded or expected. Given the option, most guys will opt out of an action if it's expected of them.

In my opinion both partners in a relationship need to be loving and romantic toward each other, if they aren't then it might be the case that one of them isn't really a part of the relationship. He/she needs to be constantly drawn back in and uses the romantic gestures in place of having any real emotional connection to the other half.

Quick edit before I submit this thing. Some women are in the mindset that the only thing men need to be happy is sex, that's not true. I think that is why you may have asked this question. Women who think like that are led to believe they get all the romance, and the guy is allowed to have sex. Occasionally.