I met this guy through mutual friends about 6 weeks ago. Everyone who knows him tells me he is a real catch. Can't say enough about his good character. We hit it off right away. We are very physically attracted to each other and we have quite similar personalities. We've both been hurt badly in past relationships are fairly cautious, but we really seem to click. The trouble is, he lives a few hours away from me. We have managed to get together almost every weekend since we met and talk on the phone most nights.
Anyway, the last couple of times we saw each other we had sex. Lots. I am NOT a promiscuous girl. It just seemed right. Stupid I know. Well. I was under the impression that we were in a relationship, but now I think that maybe we never were. I am soooo tempted to ask him what's going on , but also don't want him to feel like he owes me some explanation or something. I don't want him to feel guilty or trapped. I don't want to lose him. Since then I've talked to a friend who said that he told her that he wasn't looking for a girlfriend right now, but that he had said he was very interested in me. My plan is to get over this guy, to try to forget about him and let him initiate any sort of relationship from here on out. Is this a good path to take? I've been reassured by many people that this guy would not use a girl. Please help me.
Its ok to stop and find out where a relationship is, or where it is going. If you are having sex with him it is in YOUR best interest to make sure there is some commitment. Especially since he lives a few hours away, do you really want to be hooking up with a guy that may be hooking up with other girls? After 6 weeks its ok to ask. Rather than jumping right into it and saying "so what are we, boyfriend girlfriend?" maybe just ease into and and ask "are we exclusively dating? I want to make sure we are since we are hooking up" If he is such a great guy he will respect this and I bet he is already wondering the same thing you are anyway.
Good luck! Long distance relationships are tough, but with good communication it can work.
Here is what you do in a situation like this. Don't call, email him, or even text him. If he texts or calls you don't answer for about 2 days. Be very difficult to reach. When he is able to get a hold of you I would pick a fight about something (it doesn't matter what it is). Let him know ( in a cute way) that he would be very lucky to see you ever again given the situation, etc. All of this is going to make you very desirable to him because now he can't have you. I know it seems silly to play it like this but if you really like this guy this how to keep him interested and guessing about what you will do next. At the stage you guys are at, this is the only way. If you ask him the "where is this relationship going? " question he will most likely head for the hills. He will probably be frantic if he can't reach you in over a week. Then I would let him know that you only see people when it's exclusive. He'll gladly agree if he really did like you in the first place. This takes patience, but it works. Good luck and have fun with it! These guys are so easy to predict.
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