"Ex" Wants Me Back?

Yeah, I pretty much agree with the rest of the folks here. I think that it really doesn't matter what he wants at this point. I think the deal is that you have gone through this with him before and you have been hurt. This is a guy who doesn't know what he wants and he may keep hurting you while he is trying to make up his mind. Personally, I would draw some boundaries with him and let him know that you will be a friend to him but that is all. If you do not draw boundaries with this guy, you will keep getting hurt. He sounds very scared and confused but I really do think you need to protect yourself yourself first in the relationship. Don't let him use you and then throw you away or use you and then dump you. You can also give him an ultimatum - either make a commitment or he has to move on. You can also tell him that if he chooses to continue his behavior, you are not going to take him back again. This may give him a wake-up call and let him know that he has to make a decision about what he wants. Either way, don't let him play with your heart!

Well he got what he wanted. Sorry, but you have a case of why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free on your hands. How stupid can a person be when they are asking you to help them figure out what they want. That would be like me calling you to ask you what my favorite color or cereal is. Do you really want to be with a man who can't figure out before, during , or after sex if your a good idea for him. That makes no sense. It's almost brilliant on his part. How about you tell him you want him to eat shit, and then you find someone who will love you for who you are. There are tons of people who want that for sure. Just to love and to be loved. Anywhere and everywhere in the world. So stop wasting your time unless you don't want to have any self esteem, sorry to be harsh but sometimes honesty is 1 part sugar and 3 parts lemon. - j

Well, From my experience, you two need to sit down and talk about what the two of you want, because if you don't have communication, than it won't work even if you try to be friends. Mixed signals will continue to be sent so neither of you will feel good about yourselves. So it will be harder for the two of you to let go of each other and move on if that's what you want to do.

I get the feeling that he already knows what he wants. Not too sound mean or anything but a lot of guys do this just to sleep with their ex. I know because I have done it myself. Us guys are simple. We know what we want and don't. We are not hard to figure out.

If a guy breaks up like that then he should not get to try to do that again.

If he's unhappy and confused its best to give him as much space as he need and if he doesn't come back then at least he's happy

I'm sorry that you are going through this & I know how painful a breakup can be. First of all, you definitely need to stop having sex with him right now. I know you went into this thinking that if he is still intimate with you that he must want to be with you & regrets leaving you but, as you have found out that is not the case. You need to distance yourself from him for now so that he can figure out what it is he wants. I'm not saying that he doesn't love you or that eventually things will not work out but, you need to show him that you deserve better from him. If you are sitting there waiting for him to make a decision about his life he will continue to use you when nothing better is going on for him at any given time. He will never realize what he is loosing if he knows he can come around & tell you what you want to hear & then walk out the door. If I were you, as hard as it may be, I would tell him that he needs to decide what it is he wants & until then you are moving on with your life. You cannot make that decision for him. You have not been with him that long so don't just become a booty call for him. He knows that you love him but, if you don't respect yourself he will just figure he has the best of both worlds so why should he commit to you. Him asking you to help him decide is his way of not feeling guilty when he is just there for the sex. I hope that things work out for you the way you want them to but, in the mean time be strong & spend time doing things that you enjoy to get your mind off of him. Take care!

Girl, he knows what he wants otherwise he wouldn't have ended it in the first place. He made it clear that y'all do not connect anymore when someone feels that way about a relationship then acts on it by leaving you, that's what they want. To not b with you in a relationship anymore.

Now he's coming back? Still sayin he is not sure but then has sex with you? Its obvious he came back for sex and saying just enough to get that while your hoping deep down inside y'all will really b together again. That's what he wants you to think so he can keep sexin you down til he is tired of it. Overall, He does not want you back because yall don't click no more. He just clicks with your body obviously. Get away! Before you get hurt. Agai but this time 10 times worse when he is really out the door after all that. Trust me. I know and I'll never take an ex back again. There's a reason why they are our exes. So move on, girl.

Listen to yourself, (1) "My boyfriend broke up with me. (2) My boyfriend didn't think we "clicked". (3) My boyfriend said, He, "Might" have made a mistake. (4)We went to dinner as "Friends". Now, (5)By the end of sex? How did you get to sex? I wouldn't sit back and wait, for him to decide, if "We" "click", or, if he has made a "mistake", or, if he wants to be "MORE" be more than just "friends. What. Are you going to accept that, as a justification for being intimate with him? He's undecided? Having sex with him, (if you don't apply) as, his "girlfriend", if you have been found NOT to have been a "Mistake" If he is feeling you clicking with him, (but he has to be clicking all the time), not only when he wants sex. Well, sex could be an option. If none of those things apply? No more sexual favors for him. You don't have sex with your friends, and especially someone who doesn't click with you, If he comes back undecided? And feels he may have made a mistake again, tell him you can talk about it, (preferably) on the phone, like you do with most of your "Friends" no need for him to have sex with you while he's "Deciding". And also. In the meantime, while he's trying to figure it all out , DON'T MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE TO HIM, (in that way) Remember, he's your friend.

In my opinion I would not sleep with him until he knows what he actually wants in terms of a relationship. He can say things he knows that you will want to hear like "I love you" but if you don't let him get what he wants (sex) then hopefully he will figure out if he actual wants you to be in a relationship with or wants you for sex which will also give you insight about what type of guy he really is. You both need time for yourselves and then see where it goes from there. Hope this helps a little. Good luck I know it is hard!