It all started 3 years ago, after me and my husband decided to call it quits and got a divorce, it took me a few months to start dating, considering he started dating while we were still married. The first guy I dated for a little over a month, I had known him for about a year so that's why we didn't wait too long to start dating, I cooked for him, cleaned his house, we had what I thought were meaningful conversations, had fun together,the same circle of friends so that wasn't a problem. I am a little jealous but we never had any issues. After a month, he said he loved me but then a week later decided to break up with me. It took me a while to get over that and I kept asking myself if there was something I did wrong, I was never possessive and I gave him his space and yet he broke up with me. A few months later I started seeing another guy and again after a couple of months he broke up with me. I asked him if I had done something wrong because that had happened to me before and I just wanted to find out whatever it was and nip it in the butt. He said nothing was wrong with me but that I was too PERFECT. Again, I wondered how somebody could break up with another one when they thought they were perfect. Then last year I started dating John who I thought was the love of my life and who I was going to marry and have kids with( I never even thought this way about my ex-husband), I was ecstatic and thought this one was finally the one, there was just one catch. I was moving to Belgium. After a couple of months he asked me to move in with him and I thought is was kind of soon but gave it a world. We moved in, I told him I loved him, he said he loved me and we were all happy, I cooked, cleaned, did his laundry, pleased him in every kind of way possible, we had great chemistry in every sense of the word. I moved to Belgium in the middle of January and just two weeks later he told me he never loved me and that it was a mistake to be together. Again, I asked him what was so wrong with me and he said there was nothing wrong at all with me because I was friendly, funny, got along with his friends, great in bed and with his family and that it was weird because all his previous girlfriends had some issue and I didn't. I have since then been trying to figure out what I have done wrong all this time and if I am so "perfect" why do guys keep breaking up with me? Am I doing something wrong? I have been so unhappy and don't think happiness is ever going to come for me. What should I do?
Maybe there is nothing wrong with you hun. From the sounds of it these men all said you were fine, you gave your all and they were the ones that left you. Have you for a minute stepped back and looked at the situation? Maybe your picking the wrong men. Look at patterns between all your previous relationships and see if they had anything in common. Sometimes we fall into a rut where we consistently fall for the wrong guy and it isn't until we examine the situation that we learn.
Ok ladies I wanna know why when your relationship is pretty much down the drain and us guys tell the girl that I think its time we go our separate...
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When: 3 months ago
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