Ok, so if I ended this relationship with "L" because I was being emotionally blackmailed. (i.e. crawling into a bottle, threatening suicide...) I went off to college and met this guy "M." I told him straight up, sex was a no go (still a virgin). He said it didn't matter and he just wanted to hang. He treated me like a princess. He held open doors, paid for everything and even pulled out my chair!
He's six years older than me, a workaholic and a bit of a drinker. He's a bartender by day and a dj by night so we usually hang out around 6 pm or 3 am. We would just lay on the couch at watch tv. No, really..
It was about a month into the relationship when he called me saturday night to hang out. Things got pretty heated. He got my first kiss and that led to some pretty heavy touching. Once the mention of clothes removal was brought up I basically had a panic attack. I asked him to stop and he didn't seem to be too upset over it. he just held me for the rest of the night.
We really didn't talk at all on Sunday but we did end up going to dinner. He told me that he was accepted for a job he applied for six months ago and in September would have to move to Miami for a three months, more if he liked the gig. I really was excited for him but I was still sorting out what had happened over the weekend. Later that week he showed up at my dorm w/ Micky D's. We kinda discussed it. We both decided it was too much too fast. that was a few weeks ago.
We've stopped talking again so I send I'm a little congratulations card. He send me a text saying he was sick and didn't want to get me sick too, but was feeling better. I send him a text that night but didn't get a response. He was obviously responding to txt just not mine. I know because he sent me a txt that was meant for someone else. once again, haven't heard anything.
I have a tendency to read to far into things and blow things out of proportion. I just wanna know where we stand because I really liked hanging out with him... I don't know if he doesn't want to hang out because I have to go to Canada over the summer and he'll pretty much be in Miami when I get back or if I did something wrong or what, but I can't even get a simple Hi out of him let alone have a conversation about this. I feel like I'm bugging him every time I txt him!
Am I reading too much into this? Should I confront him? If so what's the best way to do so?
Update: I really kinda feel like I deserve an answer but I'm not sure I want it. I guess I'm asking is ignorance bliss when it comes to these kinda things or is that a BIG mistake?
2 months ago
First of all, RESPECT the "no sex" fact because that's SOOO ME!
And as far as "Mr. M" goes. Maybe he's just with you because he wants to have sex. And when you told him "no sex" he took it into consideration for only a moment of time. Because maybe he thought he could eventually get to you. You knw?
But well he didn't, and now he's backin' out or at least trying to. I mean why else would he txt other people and not you?
I think you should be straight up with him. Confront him. Call him up and tell him you guys should hang. Or go to his place/room and chill there. Lead into talkin' about how you EXACTLY feel. Ask him what he's thinking and what are his plans so you don't have to keep on wondering if you are "bugging" him or not.
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