Ok so I have asked you guys if I should leave and if I should stay and everything in between. Now I need to know if I should take him back and give him one more chance? My ex has a history of abuse and has a very explosive temper. I have been with him for 5 years. But this time he is trying to come home again and this time he is going to change for good. (yea I have heard this many many times. ) He says he is going to take an intensive anger management class in June. He wants to get a lot out of it. But should I give him another chance?
I know he wants to change but that won't prevent him from acting the same way again. I have told him this! But this time he swears that it is going to be different. I don't want to throw away 5 years but I can't deal with the drama anymore! I love him but I need help. I am so confused. I thought I was going to be able to get over it this time. Please advise if I should give him one last chance. Any advise will help. Thank you.
Tell him that you will take him back if he proves to you that he will take this class. Also prove to you that he will go to it, and not go off somewhere else. It is easy to say that I will change, its hard to do it. Five years of abuse is hard, but love is easy to break. Just take it slow.
OK, the history of repeat behavior is there and you must not ignore it. If you are really considering taking him back and he is stating that he will change then have him prove that to you beforehand. If he is going to take intensive anger management, then let him enroll and be in it for at least 6 months before you take him back. This will indicate his willingness to change. If he doesn't agree to your terms then do not take him back.
You are right. That is a very good idea. I thought of that but I just don't want him to be with anyone else. Even a booty call. - 2 months ago
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If he goes with someone else or takes a booty call during that time, then you do not take him back. If he goes with someone else then so be it, let him be her problem.
I think you already know that he will not be able to live up to your terms. Given his past history, what you will be asking from him is not unreasonable. - 2 months ago
I'd keep my distance if I were you. You could stay in touch periodically but give him enough time to focus on this issue by himself with some support from you as a "friend". The rate of repeated abuse, despite classes/counseling is still relatively high. Trust your gut on this one. Not your heart.
Women in love make really stupid decisions. Keep your head on straight. You deserve to have someone that knows how to deal with anger in a healthy manner.
Wow you really hit the nail on the head! You are right. Now the only problem is telling him NO and sticking to my guns. Because he will not leave me alone. Any suggestions? - 2 months ago
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