What are guys thinking???

I was thinking about reality checks the other day, not pertaining to dating, but my thoughts about them could still be applied.

There are so many cliche tricks and behaviors that people use when approaching relationships, I think most people just feel like they are going through the motions when someone uses said tricks/behaviors on them, they sort of "shut off" their enjoyment of what is going on. It doesn't feel like a real event happening in their life, so they won't be so thrilled it is going on.

So, to break away from the norm, I would suggest not living life by societies standards. The best way to keep a man's interest is to be an individual. Take any relationship at its own pace, and treat each guy you are with as a clean slate, let him show you who he is instead of pegging him (as being a particular guy) right away.

You may need a reality check too, though. Calling and texting won't get someone to have feelings for you if they don't already. Confidence is very important for attracting the right attention. Just make sure to have the confidence that finding the right guy for you will happen, and don't try to turn every guy along the way into what you are looking for.

Confidence plays a huge role. They aren't going to want to start out dating a girl who shows low self esteem, talks about how much plastic surgery she wants, etc. They want a girl that knows what she wants out of life, is confident in who they are, and knows how to show it without being stuck up. I know because all my friends are boys and they always piss about the stupid things girls do. Lol.