How would you want your boyfriend to handle this situation?

I would say just straight up tell her what's on her mind, and how things were viewed from your perspective. This kid might just be that touchy feely kind of friend, and maybe your girlfriend and him just have that type of relationship. Just find the truth, don't jump to conclusions, and keep your trust for her on a tight leash.

I think your girlfriend is innocent and you should still trust her - after all you were right there while all this was going down and she probably knew you could see and didn't seem too concerned. Maybe she's just not as into boundaries w/her guy friends. Or maybe she's not used to having a boyfriend (how long have you been together? ) sometimes if she's been really close to her guy friends and hasn't dated any one in a while, she might be ok with things that you - as a boyfriend - are not ok with. As for her friend, he does seem like a tool but he's HER friend, and I say not worry too much.

*good luck! *

Well I think she is either playing mind games with you because she wants to know your reaction, or this guy does like her but she's not doing anything about it maybe because she likes the attention. Or possibly likes him back. Just saying. I could understand him holding her for that long if she was crying or having a hard time, but there's not reason for him to be holding her that long!

My boyfriend's reaction would not be good, he would think "What the hell? " like you, maybe go over there and ask what's going on in a not so rude way, but to figure things out. Or, he would wait till I am alone to tell me he doesn't like my so called friend holding me like as if it looked like we were dating. Probably would say if this happens on regular basis, he would not want me hanging out with this guy.

What I would want my boyfriend to do? Well I like knowing my boyfriend cares, so him questioning about it or showing thoughts he cared would be great. I would make my friend stop touching me. (Though it would not happen but I have been in this situation many times in past. ) But my boyfriend and I would work something out with this guy.

Guys don't really care if girls have boyfriends, if they are attracted to the girl. They are attracted. That guy seems like a rude awakening. PLUS he was holding your girl for awhile. I'm getting a vibe he is challenging you for your girl. And your girl is in the middle of it.
Is this a recent friend of hers? Or an old one, if it's an old one did she see him off and on?

If it's a recent one I would tell her to stop with this guy.

If it's a friend she's known for awhile but off and on (As in seeing him then doesn't see him for awhile then sees him again) This also could be a problem because most friendships are constant, And her maybe not seeing him for awhile reflects on this situation, because all she ever wanted was friends. But all he ever wanted was more. Which would explain that.

This guy reminds me of someone I knew, had a huge crush on me in high school and we were close friends, but he had a very vindictive side, very possessive. This guy still has a crush on your girl, and when he saw she was taken, instead of acting mature, he got bratty when he felt his jealousy rise. Hence, putting you down in front of her, because in his mind, you've got the girl he wanted, therefor, he f***ing hates you.

Nonetheless, your girlfriend was in the wrong for not standing up for you in front of her jerk friend. Even if it was just a playful ''no he's not full of himself, he's really sweet'' she should've said something, and I would've been really offended and pissed if my girl/boyfriend didn't stick up for me in ANY situation. Especially one like that.

As for her allowing him to put his hand on her waist, she probably didn't think anything of it, he's a high school friend so she felt no awkwardness with him, so him touching her didn't raise any kind of flags, which is totally understandable, I'd be the same way with a close high school friend. Then again, the comments he made earlier would've quickly been nipped if it had been with me.

I wouldn't let the guy piss you off, he's an immature little brat. Fighting him will do no good, telling him off won't do any good either, either way he's going to hate your guts for getting the girl. It was the same with my (now) ex and the high school friend. He HATED him for that reason only, and after we broke up they actually became best friends. Pretty messed up eh? Haha. Not saying you two will though, just saying some guys don't know how to handle their jealousy

Well I think you're justified in feeling like you can't trust her. Because you had a sense of betrayal when she didn't say anything to him while he was dissing you.

You should sit down with your girlfriend and tell her that even though you can handle yourself, it let you down that she didn't defend you. Sounds like she needs to learn to stand up to people instead of letting things 'slide' and laughing it off. Not only for you, but for herself

You are right, that kid was being really rude.
As far as your girlfriend goes, I'm sorry to say this, but she is just seeking attention.
You did nothing wrong in this situation because she was the one who let it go on without stopping him, and she really doesn't have a right to say they are just friends when she clearly let THAT go on for so long, AND right in front of you.
as far as the kid goes, clearly he doesn't like you, he also clearly likes your girl as more than a friend.

Your girlfriend has no idea how good of a boyfriend she has/had. Not only did you not judge her, you waited to hear her side of the story before coming to us. You've also given this some thought. But unfortunately, your girlfriend doesn't respect you as much as you respect her.
i would move on.

Your girlfriend was wrong in this situation too. Unless she moved away from him as soon as he put his hands on her (and not as soon as she thought you were looking), there is something going on in that situation. I think they are not "just friends" I'll tell you that much.

Women are not stupid, we usually can tell if a guy is feeling us - especially if they are as obvious as this dude. He was being disrespectful because in his eyes he wanted to test you and see if you were weak. If you showed weakness, he would have used that as a wedge to get with her. Like, "Oh you need a real man your boyfriend is a lame".

You have the patience of Gandhi because I would not have tolerated that disrespect. I would just let him know not to talk to me like that and he can take it where he wants to take it.

I can see where you're coming from, he did blatantly disrespect you with the "you're full of it" comment, but I do have friends that are just a bit too touchy feely, and it's been a problem with at least 2 boyfriends, and this friend will always be just a friend, we like to kid and laugh but neither one of us have thought anymore about it. Yet it always appears that way to others. I don't think you should be questioning the trust but this guy's attitude. What has you're girlfriend told this guy beforehand? What sort of impression has she made already for him to just act like that? Or maybe he has a protective brother thing?

P. S I'm from the Scotland so don't know how significant it is taking I guy to "prom", but from what I can tell, it's pretty strong statement?

That's a tough one. I would never let any of my friends be that disrespectful to my boyfriend, let alone let a guy friend hug me like that in front of him or not. Obviously, if it were to happen, I'd want my boyfriend to act like you and trust me that nothing is happening. However, I very much doubt it. It seems like they have a deeper relationship. I mean, I don't know what kind of relationship you guys have, but the way both, your girlfriend and her friend acted towards you was just plain disrespectful. Honestly, I wouldn't care if it is my brother, I would not allow him to be rude in any way to my boyfriend. You are incredibly patient, my boyfriend would have dragged me away from him and we would have had a huge fight if I ever allowed this to happen. You need to talk to her about this and not just let it go, tell her how you feel and how much their behavior bothered you. She should definitely understand where you're coming from and if she doesn't then there's something wrong. Ask her to put herself in your shoes. Wish you luck!

It sounds like the guy is a jerk! Sounds like he's trying to compete with you! Do you know if he has a crush on your girl? Have you asked her?.
Also, one other thing, when I'm around my husband I don't let any man touch me. (especially on my waist) Not even my guy friends because it is disrespectful, and I wouldn't like any woman touching my hubby!

Have you been dating her for quite some time?

I first of all would of said that the friendship is fine as long as he realizes that is as far as it goes with My girlfriend, and thus he will treat me with respect and act like a gentleman when he is with her or else there will be some trust issues. I would not be over aggressive but make this suggestion to both of them in a relaxed environment. This must be handled right away and nipped in the bud before it goes any further is my answer. Trust comes first if your into a serious relationship and then friends , etc.

They me close friends, I act like that with some of my close friends, but not in public. The problem isn't whether you trust your girl, its that she trusts this guy. I don't know how long you two have been seeing each other, but if its not long, then you'll find problems down the road. He obviously has a low opinion of you, whatever his reason, and when he conveys it to your girl, it'll make you look bad.

Looks like his method of trying to get in her favor is working. Pretend that everything you do is worthless and that you're and idiot, then ignore you. Do everything he can get away with doing with her, because he knows you won't do anything. When you get mad at it, she will be upset because she doesn't understand why you are acting that way. You break up with each other, and then he makes his move on her. He wins.

Don't play his game- he's a child. Next time (hopefully there isn't another one), tell him to f*** off if he is being immature. Grab her and leave him to his own devices. Talk to her as often as it takes to make her realize how you feel about guys hanging all over her, especially close friends. She should have defended you against him when he belittled you like that... if she isn't really into you enough to do that, don't waste your time on her.