Tonight I came home from work and was relaxing around the house for awhile and had decided to lay low tonight and just stay in because I am really tired and have to go in to work tomorrow morning early. One of my closer friends called and wanted to know if I wanted to go out tonight with her to meet up with some friends of hers that I have never met before for a few drinks because it is his birthday in a town that is about 45 minutes to an hour away. I told her that I did not want to go out tonight and that I would have to pass up her offer to go out. In the process of her trying to persuade me to go out she offered to treat me to drinks not only tonight but offered to buy me dinner and drinks on Sunday because we HAD plans to do dinner then. She also offered to drive there tonight and she is not a person that likes driving at night. She is now giving me this whole guilt trip for not going out tonight and how friends go out with friends when offers such as the ones she has made. She is also stating that I should want to meet her friends since I am her friend. She also proceeded to cancel the plans we had for dinner Sunday night because I would not go out with her tonight.My question here is am I in the wrong here for not going out with her tonight because I am tired after a long work week and want to stay in tonight?I don't know if this will mean anything to the way my question gets answered but, This particular friend of mine over the last 10-12 months we have been going back and forth with the idea of us dating and starting a serious relationship together. Due to a few different things we decided that we would not be good together because we have different outlooks in a few area's of life and that we both could not see ourself together as a couple for not that long of a time but could see each other as friends for many many years to come so out of respect to each other and not wanting to have one or both of us hurt a few months, a few years down the road because the relationship did not work out and not only losing the relationship but the friendship as well.So what do you think? Am I in the wrong here?
You aren't in the wrong for not wanting to go out that night. But do you want to make up with her?
If you do, try to get all the friends you would have seen together at her house or a bar or something, have her come, and surprise her by showing her that now you are meeting all of her friends.
And just so you know, she probably wants a relationship. Girls will agree with guys who tell them they don't want a relationship; what else could they do?
I did try to make it up to her but it did not work out and this girl is no longer a part of my life. She screwed things up between the two of us - 3 months ago
You didn't do anything wrong. She's too controlling. Don't let her make you feel guilty. You were tired and needed your rest. She was insensitive to that fact and canceling your plans was seriously immature. I would have a talk wit her about this. You don't deserve to be treated this way.
No! You're not doing anything wrong. I'm completely on your side! You were tired. You don't have do to things if you don't want to and she shouldn't be giving you sh*t about it. The good thing is... she'll probably forget about that because hopefully it's no big deal and you guys can go back to normal. :]
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