This guy I met a few years ago when we started school together. He fell for me really hard, he even admitted to me that he was obsessed with me at that point. I blew him off for another guy at that time but realized what I had and ran back to him (which is now 2 years later) we started the beginning of last year and he fell for me again and was thinking about a relationship with me (when he has never had a real relationship before). Later on in the year he would be on and off with me, being all over me then the next time ignoring me because he was not sure about his feelings. But every time I told him I was not gonna deal with his shit he would come back and apologize and tell me how he missed me and what an idiot he was and how I make his emotions go crazy. I did not have sex with him until later on because he said he would wait for me and only me because he cared so much. This year only a little while ago he met someone else. He told me and spent 4 hours apologizing and telling me he doesn't think it will last because he still thinks about me and he just doesn't know how he feels. Obviously he's with her and not me so I just said I'm not waiting around. the other night at the end of the night after a party he came up to me and talked to me and kept pushing me and punching me as a flirtatious thing and then a fight broke out and he protected me. He looked miserable I think because he's been seeing me have a great time and I don't give him the time of day. I know this is a long story but what do you think his deal is? We care about each other a lot because we used to be best friends and he keeps apologizing and said he doesn't want to lose me and I deserve what he's doing. and I should let it go, how can I keep him away from me because he keeps coming up to me when I don't even realize he's behind me before I can even run away.
This is obviously a maturity issue and this dude clearly has some serious emotional (and maybe even psychological) issues. I think obsessiveness and jealousy are some of the most widespread and destructive traits in our society in general, and those are traits to watch out for in a person. It's one thing for two people to be crazy for each other, but his obsession is unhealthy and he is clearly playing a lot of games that you don't want to be playing. Be very firm with him and tell him you are finished with him and that there isn't any chance you'll be changing your mind regardless of how much he apologizes.
Sounds to me that this guy has a bad problem of guilt and it also sounds like he's could be a very controlling guy and he's only doing certain things for you because he's trying to impress you. Again the part about him protecting you that was just a big show to try and get you back again from what I can understand.
From your story is that pretty much he just wants to get back into your life and your pants - he's way to obsessed with you and you need to get him off your back before it gets worse than it already is.
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