He works with me. He was a crazy flirt for a month and now we've settled into the "friend zone" but still kid each other a bit with innuendo. Does he think the fat chick is easy? Or is he really into my personality? We went out for one drink a month ago and had a great time, but since then, I've asked him to go grab a drink again, and he always has an excuse. BUT we talk every day, mostly work related, but some personal stuff too. What's going on?
Well, maybe he just likes to flirt, but doesn't want anything more. Lots of people (girls too) play around like that. Your the one that says you've settled into the "friend zone"...maybe that's what he wants.
Or, maybe he DIDN'T think your first "drink" date thing was a great as you think it was. But he doesn't dislike you and doesn't want to blow you off. So he's still positive towards you, but he HAS made up his mind you're not the one for him.
Maybe or maybe not he thinks "the fat chick is easy" but apparently he's not trying to score with you, easy or not. So at least give him credit for that amount of respect. I mean, you're the one saying he's NOT pursuing you; I don't see how that makes him guilty of treating you like you're easy.
And you know, your whole question makes just as much sense if you would omit his age/build and your age/build. But that's not what you asked. Therefore, you're truly concerned about your age difference AND your size. So, its quite possible that your lack of confidence about your weight, or when you're in his young, athletic presence is turning him off. Just treat him like you would treat him if you were 27 and athletic too. Or if he was 42 and big. He'll probably notice the difference and like the relaxed, confident you much more.
"I've asked him to go grab a drink again, and he always has an excuse."
That should tell you everything you need to know. If he wanted to hang out with you or is into you. He would've said "I can't on X day but I'm free on Y day." Think about it, if he asked you out Friday night and you couldn't, you'd let him know another day that you could right?
First of all, love can strike at the most unusual of places. Age... doesn't have to be a factor!
By the sound of it he doesn't think of you as easy. If you feel like you had a good night out, then he most likely enjoyed it too!
On the other hand, he could be hiding something? Maybe the slight age difference makes him feel like he's doing something wrong.
I wouldn't worry about it, he'll probably come round if he does like you (as a friend or more) and if not then I guess it just wasn't meant to be. Nobody likes shallow people anyway, and if he keeps ignoring you for whatever reason, just stand back.
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What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
I think I use situations to start conversations...
If I'm approaching a female, I'd start by introducing myself, and following up with a compliment of why I had to introduce my self.
How do they typically respond?
If she is interested, she would ask questions, or make small talk while giving off some type of body language.
If she is not interested, she listens to whatever I say, and tells me something like she really into someone right now, but she appreciates the approach.
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