I have just started seeing a new guy after having been single for about 2 years. The guy I am seeing is quite a bit older than me and was divorced 2 years ago. We have been seeing a lot of each other, he is calling me his girlfriend and has introduced me to several of his friends. The last few times I have been over to see him, I have left feeling uneasy and nervous because his attitude toward me seems to be gradually changing. We have only been together a month. I don't know how to address this feeling of insecurity I have been feeling. I feel like he might be losing interest in me, though he keeps asking me to hang out with him, go places, etc. Our interactions when we have been together lately have been sort of awkward and distant. I can't figure this out. Any ideas? Any advice on how to address this with him?
Update: I don't want him to think I am some kind of drama queen who is always needing reassurance, because I am not. It's just that it is a new relationship and I want to know where I stand.
6 months ago
You have probably been distant and awkward because he's going faster then you would like which is making you uncomfortable around him. The best bet is honestly to just tell him how you feel, without that he will start worrying that you suddenly don't like him and he won't understand why.
My guess is that he wants to get into the "couple" stage because he is lonely and because the dating stage is very confusing and stressful for most people, he probably hates that part, I know I do, however he needs to realize that's part of what makes it interesting =)
Some guys just want to get into the comfortable, hanging out most of the time, part of a relationship pretty quickly. A lot of guys really don't like the dating and the romance part of relationships. So maybe he just got there before you did, and now things are a little awkward. The thing about awkwardness is that it never gets any better until you address it. So I think you should just talk to him about this. Or, one thing you could do is step out of the picture for a little while and wait for him to come to you about it. It's a little underhanded but it takes the pressure off of you both and it might give him a little time to miss you and that couldn't hurt.
Well if you are wanting more attention from him then show him that!! If you are sitting together watching a movie sit closer so he knows you want him to make that move to put his arm around you!! I mean not only physically but if there is something you want to talk to do the same hint at it... Guys are generally one track minded and we won't realize your needs unless you hint at them that's just how we are!!
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