Why does nobody care?

It's actually quite unusual to have two friends die in a year. Maybe a lot of bad events have just happened to you in a short space of time. Valuing what you do have is quite a good strategy. For example, you are 17 years old. Many of us would love to be that age again. You've your whole life ahead of you, and I think you are going to plan ahead and make a success of yourself and have a great life. Having a plan is important because then you can stick to it at times when things don't seem so great. You mentioned that you lack education. I would set about remedying this as a first step.

Reading this literally had me in tears. I've attempted suicide too, as I've said before to whom I'm a little more than certain is you. Reading about suicide always affects me in this way because it is taking something so valuable and throwing it away. Life is incredible - not something to give away lightly. I lost a cousin a little while back in a horrible way (while rafting down the Zambezi river he was eaten by a crocodile) and all I could think was "why did this happen" and "why him? " It's not fair. At the time I thought that it was unfair that he died when he lived for the moment (I mean, honestly - he died while rafting down a dangerous river for the thrill of it) and yet I do nothing. Would he have wanted me to follow him? Hell no! He would have wanted me to live for the moment - make sure that at the end of my life, I can't look back and say I've wasted my life. Please stop thinking along these lines. It's only going to make you more depressed to think about following him. I deal with depression too, so trust me that I know.

Your hurting a lot and you feel like no one is there to hold you and say it ok but that's not always true. I was in the same situation as you not to long ago by best friend moved my "true love" broke up with me and moved and all my family said was quit bitching and get over it so (as young as I am) I started drinking and filled that void with causing myself pain. I was really depressed and nothing could help but a few weeks into all this and I started to find faults in my own personality in myself and from all the darkness I realized only I could pick myself up and make myself better and as time went on I got a little better but the drinking still consumed me and I realized that my friends and family made thing worse they were only trying to help but I wasn't ready for that kind of help yet I had to help myself. So I got a job and got out of the house and away but that only helped a little bit I eventually saved up enough money and moved out so I had gotten away from all those people who made me feel worse but I was still lonely but my depression got better and after some time to think my life over (and I was about to turn 18) I decided to move closer to my career goal so I transferred to the town in which the collage of my choice was and found a job and a place to stay for the rest of my senior year it was hard (full time work and school is really hard).

But then graduation came and my family was so proud (still no new friends too much work) but the time we had apart made us closer and it was, and still is, easier to deal with them

Now Im going to college and working and feeling great. My social life hasn't improved much but Im not as depressed as I was and Im doing good for myself . For me all this was a stepping stone for me to grow-up

I know this probably don't help you much but it was my experience with a similar situation and it turned out good for me Im 19 now and am just getting back into the social scene I know I didn't give you any advice but I told you all this to let you know that I can give you advice the problem is I don't know exactly what you have to work with to make it better if you have any questions or just need to talk send me a message and Ill help you as much as I can my friend killed herself because of depression and I almost died because of mine its different for everyone but Ive been through it and want to help
if you feel like you need to talk just send me a message on this site and we'll talk I don't have any intrest in hurting you just helping you before something bad happens (i won't give you my name and i'd perfer you not give me yours just stick to screen names)

Going to respond to your comments, since you missed a lot of the point.

You live in a European union country, and can afford to go blow a Euro on an internet cafe to bitch about your petty life problems. There's at least 3 billion people in the world who wish they could afford to do that, and they'd actually have real problems worth bitching about, like not having electricity in their house, or having to share one light bulb across their family, or how the police kidnapped their father and they have to work in a field 16 hours a day for the rest of their natural life so they can help their mother pay bills.

Those problems I just listed aren't your problems because you're lucky enough to live in an ok country. All of us in the western world are rich, most of us just take it for granted, including you apparently. Stop taking it for granted, and you'll realize how wonderful your life really is, and then it will be quite easy to either solve or get past those little difficulties.

While WayTooPopular might have some wrong assumptions, he has some valid points too. It's never good to focus on what you don't have or have lost, but more important that you get over those quick, because no one will ever do it for you. You need to find something that interests you, that you like to do. You must have dreams and a plan of action to have those dreams realized. While you might not be the luckiest person on the face of the earth, you sure don't sound like the unluckiest either. Look at hunger site or Kiva to see thousands of less fortunate people out there. If they can find a means and a reason to stay alive, so can you! You just have to focus on the better things that this world can offer you.

No one cares because your life obviously isn't that bad. Your parents are still taking care of you, and you obviously are rich enough to have access to a computer with the internet or else you wouldn't have been able to ask a question on the site.

Not having friends isn't a suicidal problem. A friend dying shouldn't make you suicidal either. If you're just depressed for no reason, grow up and make your own life better. Get a job, save some money, and do what you want. If you want to cry about it all day you can, but it's not going to change a damn thing. Some people have real problems in life, like finding food today or making rent money so their family isn't homeless. Trying to kill yourself because you don't have any friends is ridiculous.

I care, don't be ashamed or discourages because through suffering you learn to understand people in pain and you learn compassion and that is exactly what this world needs. Your suffering will pay off someday, just believe it. And don't ever think of killing yourself because you are a great wealth to this world and a precious gift.

Hey, your only 17. You literally have your whole life ahead of you. I know it seems bleak, but as you get older you see there is a whole world ahead of you waiting for you to discover. See the world or just go to places you've never been. You have a lot more to experience before you die.

You're dwelling on the past rather than looking forward. You've got a long life ahead of you. You'll meet new friends, but only if you stop thinking about how you "lost" the old ones. As for nobody caring, I think they're trying to forget about your depression, because it's painful. They look on the bright side, something you could take a cue from. Life's really not as bad as it seems. My house burned down a few years ago. I was a sort of pessimist before that, and I went into a long depression, but I don't know, I just thought, "what about my life sucks so bad?" and honestly, I couldn't think of much.

Another thing to keep in mind is that what we call mental illness is really a solution to a problem. People who are afraid to go out develop "social anxiety disorder," which means they don't have to go out anymore. It resolves a problem.

Relief is found when you figure out what problem is being solved and substitute a different way to approach it. That's where not having anyone to lean on becomes really problematic because knowing someone who knows the way out is really helpful. Hopefully one of the perspectives presented here will help you out and you will decide to follow that person's advice. I am certain that each person here has been through hard times and learned how to overcome them through good strategies (which is not a guarantee I'd ever make about a psychologist or psychiatrist). I wish you luck and hope you take one of these folks up on their offer to help.

Don't go babe, all these people here stepping in to try and say something to help you is for a reason. I had a very difficult time in my life similar to what you are going through. I believe in God. I didn't for a long time (I tried but everything just kind of went through me). Whenever God talks to you it will be in subtle things you have to pick up on and acknowledge. There will be no burning bush with light from the sky talking to you. It will be a friend or stranger trying to talk to you to help you understand, or someone giving you hope and making you feel better.

There is a story about a person who misunderstood faith.
A man was drowning in a storm and was praying to God to save him. A man in a canoe came by and said to the man in the water "Hey sir! Come on jump in the canoe!" The man yells back "No that's okay, God's gonna come save me!". Next a large rescue boat comes. The crew yells out "Hey sir, Come get on the boat!" The man says "Thank you very much, but God's gonna come save me!". Then a Helicopter comes, the pilot yells for the man to get on. He tells them the same thing, no and that he's waiting for God to save him. The man passes and sees God at the pearly gates. The man asks "I was praying the whole time, why didn't you come save me!?" God answers "Who do you think sent the canoe, the boat, and the helicopter!?"

We aren't meant to handle life by ourselves, we weren't built for it. God gets us through. Read this book "It's Not About Me" by Max Lucado, to better understand what I'm talking about.

One of the many challenges we face when we are younger is the one-two punch of limited life experience and heightened emotions. When it comes to life experience, at 17 you haven't been through as many ups and downs and so things that won't bother you at 32 can carry a knock-out punch. And in addition to that emotions are more powerful when we are younger. Major life events (marriage, kids, death) still carry oomph when we are older, but day to day life doesn't.

Things get better. I think the teenage years are the hardest part of life. While you feel despair, life on the whole isn't going to always be as it is now. Any one who tells you things about the "real world," when you are an adult and have real world concerns like the mortgage is not giving helpful advice. I heard that when I was younger and it was lame and, in my opinion, wrong.

I wonder if it's true that no one cares. The first thing is that depression alters your perceptions and makes you feel worse about everything, so you are not going to feel warmth even if it's there. The second thing is that people are not, by and large, good at giving support to others when they are down. There's a lot of talk about that - "being there" and "through thick and thin" etc. - but it isn't usually like that. Most people's way of helping a sad friend is to try to get them out and about (like the answers here).

The thing is that depression is like Mike Tyson. In his early days - all fire and fury in the first round and tons of knockout blows. But in the later rounds, not so good. As hard as it hits you in the early going, when you decide to fight back you have a lot of tools to choose from. So, forget for the moment about therapy, whether people care or not, and start with some basics - what is your exercise level? What is your diet like? Do you keep a journal? And how much time do you spend smiling each day?

Each of these four questions has an answer that is within your ability to control. You don't have to feel good about yourself or the world to jog, to eat vegetables, to write about how crappy life is, or to sit there with a goofy grin for 10 minutes a day. Make these four changes starting today and I guarantee you will feel better in two weeks. Not good, not happy, but better. And then you add in more things that make you feel better. You'll see that soon enough depression will be on the ropes.