Can you just be friends with someone you like?

Well, the more friends have you, the better. But, there is nothing that says you have to have him as a friend. If it's too uncomfortable, you can choose not to be near him.

It's way better to know someone awesome at all than to just be like 'well if you aren't gonna do me it's best we part ways'. This has happened to every guy before, and I think it's still cool getting to know someone and hanging out with them just as friends even if you love them. Yeah it hurts sometimes, and it can be a challenge to hold yourself off and not press your own desire on em. Some days it'll be harder (as in more difficult) than others, but it's doable for sure.

Some dudes can't handle it though, so I think it's an each guy has his own opinion thing.

I say it's better to find the love elsewhere. If you distance yourself from this person for a while, and just remain friendly with them in passing, then you won't be too crushed. Who knows, if the time away from each other works out right, he may come calling realizing his mistake. If not, then you are already looking for love elsewhere.

I have been faced a few times. I had three friends that I had a feeling of wanting more, but in there hearts felt that it was best to "Just be friends". Well, out of the three, I still talk to one of them and that is once in a while. I will still talk to someone who feels that way, but I don't think it is the same after the other knows you like them.

This is possible, if you believe in your friendship (and masturbation).

I have this friend. She is like my best friend, except that she has these delicious breasts, a great ass, and these big, beautiful green eyes, with orange sunbursts in her pupils. And when I say her name out loud, I her the angels singing.

Here's the thing. I stare at her ass HARD. I think deep down, I really wanna do her...bad. BUT, she is a great friend, and I would never want to disrespect her like that. Not ever. And, I am married, so that's not cool, either. So I live my life in a weird way... I am, in fact, a very lucky guy. I know these two HOT babes. One I respect as a friend, and the other I call my wife and my lover.

Truly, I am lucky.

I could, but my friends never can with me. They always want more.

No matter what, the person who likes the other is still going to pursue a relationship.. that can be good and bad for the other person.

Depends on your type of friendship. I'm kinda in love with this girl that just wants to be friends, and I'm completely cool with it. Because I care about her so much that I'm fine with letting her be if that will make her happier. We're still pretty good friends (if not the closest of close friends,) and I'm going through that again with someone else, and it's MUCH harder, but mostly because I'm still hoping the girl will turn around (she did like me only a couple weeks ago, but something made her decide against it.)

You should really read my situation. It's following this question exactly. I have a girl who called me her best friend. We hung out for 5 weeks non stop. Constant, I was perfectly fine with being friends even though I fell for this girl. The only problem is that now she's acting distant for some reason. I don't know if It's something I did or if she thinks I'm not fun to be around anymore. Or maybe she thought I was getting to close and is pushing me away because she thinks I'm trying for something more. To answer the question, I am happy with her being my best friend.

I would rather be with her having fun then never to have known her. I just wish she stopped acting so casual and carefree around me now when we were always hanging out. She doesn't even look at me when she talks or when I talk, and yet she does when talking to other people. It's really depressing because now I think she hates me or doesn't care about being best friends anymore when she's the one who called me her best friend. Even with all this pain I'm happy that she even talks to me or takes the time to e-mail me. Even if it is a lot less then before.(this doesn't sound to much like a yes but still It makes me feel better.)

I think it would be just too hard. the rejection every time you are with them would be tough on me. plus I like to give my all in a relationship so if I gave my heart to someone else then I wouldn't want to spend too much time with that member of the opposite sex anyway!

It's hard to tell from here, seeing as I have no idea on the situation, but sometimes it will just work itself out. I'd say it's better to be friends than nothing at all if you really like the guy, but don't get your hopes up. Guys tend to be less than intelligent or thoughtful most of the time. I'd say until you find someone else, do what you've been doing -- it wouldn't hurt anything. Just know when is too much and when you think it's time to move on.
It's hard, but you'll just have to either wait 'til he changes his mind, or you find someone else.

Well, for me, I told the guy I liked him. I had him guess from the swim team (which I am on) and he figured it out. I found out from a friend he was going to ask me out then, but decided not to because he didn't want to ruin our great friendship. This I found totally understandable, because that was what I was debating before I decided to let him know I l iked him. After, it was semi-awkward, but we both kind of pretended it never happened and now, about 1 1/2 years later we are just as great of friends as before I asked him. Now we talk about who we like, instead of liking each other, which is kind of ironic. Anyways, my advice would be to try it. Be bold! If worst comes to worst, and he does not want to even be friends because things are too awkward, leave it. The friendship is not worth keeping or forcing if people can't handle a few bumps. If you do end up going out, be careful how you handle it. Me and the guy have two friends who went out for 1/2 a semester and broke up last week. At first I was going to use that relationship as a guinea pig for a possible relationship with me and my guy, but decided no because we both talked about their relationship and decided theirs is weird enough and we don't need ours to add to the drama! Now, the two who were dating they don't talk and it kind of split the group, but unevenly. It is basically "the group" then the girl who was dumped, and she was the one who had the guts to ask out the guy in the first place. I feel really bad, and like I could have saved her if I had gone first, but kind of selfishly glad it wasn't me/glad things worked out as they did for me in my case. Good luck.

It is really going to be hard. You can be friends, but you will have to establish some rules in your mind. I am kind of going through the same thing now. I have been friends with a guy 4 a really long time and now he has a girlfriend..it hurts me to see her car there and to rack my brain thinking of what they are doing when they are together. It bothers me so bad mostly because I knew I had a chance with him.

I have to keep my distance from him, because if I don't he will become like a drug to me and I will have to see him everyday that she is not there. I think he just wants to be friends and take the time to get to know this girl, but he has told me that he still has some feelings for me. I think that he was able to tell me this because nothing more can come from our relationship now. I have strong feelings for him, but I also have to respect him as a friend and let him have his space.

I would rather keep him in my life as a friend than to lose him at all, but I really don't think that it is mentally healthy. Just the "possibility" that something might happen in the future is enough to put your mind into overdrive. I am pretty good at hiding my feelings and we do NOT talk about his girlfriend or hang out together. It is just too hard for me. (and uncomfortable for him too I think.) But it is the position that I put myself in.

Long story short, you CAN do it, but it is going to be hard. You will essentially be lying about your feelings for him every time you see him. I would hate to loose him and being his friend is the way that I can keep him in my life. I grieve for the opportunity lost, but I can't let that cloud my judgment either. Don't focus too much on him, you have to do what is best for yourself. If something else comes along and he is not in the position to be with you feel free to pursue other options. Until that other option comes along, be friends, but don't hang on so tight that you can't let go.