Several months back, I was informed of a classmate's interest in me. From this point on, the guy has been extremely awkward (in knowing I'm aware of the 'crush' ). To alleviate any uneasiness, I immediately attempted to engage him in conversation at the next opportunity...only to receive a stuttering, short response in return. I immediately got the 'shy-guy' vibe.
Some background: without sounding arrogant, I am a female who is constantly hit on by dudes. In fact, I'm so sick of being hit on that I'm obsessing over this very guy who continuously blows me off. Although I initially loved the challenge, it's now completely consuming and a bit perplexing. We've had several nights together in the company of mutual friends, alcohol involved, to where he's opened up, revealed certain aspects of himself, and ultimately had me stay over. Both times, we hooked up.
Here we are again, after what seemed like a great, breakthrough kind of night, and he won't initiate any kind of follow up. It's almost like he's either indifferent, embarrassed, or plain uninterested. I don't understand!! We got along so well, and we're back to being strangers. Am I missing something here? Should I just interpret this as a meaningless hook up for him or to the fact that he's admitted to being a shy guy?? Please help.
I think the question you should ask yourself is: Are you interested? Or are you just going after this guy to hook up, or prove your own self worth and build your ego and tell your self that "now even the shy guys fall for me"? And have no long term relationship interest and if you are in one gorge out his soul, quickly loose interest and drop him with no remorse when some new hunky guy walks in the door, "fresh meat".
Maybe this guy has interest in you but doubts you and expects the above mentioned from you. He hopes you would love him for him, but expects it to be false hope so plays it safe until you earn his trust. If you don't see yourself getting married with this guy don't pursue him, but that will break his heart either way.
Yes, I also felt like this guy is waiting to see if you are truly interested in him or if you are just needing an ego boost. Do you like this guy or are you just playing with him? Only you can answer that question! - 2 months ago
He definitely sounds inexperienced. If he's shy, he probably has low self-esteem. He may be asking himself, "Why would a girl like that want a long-term relationship with me?"
Or, it could be that even though he finds you attractive, he doesn't want a long-term relationship with you. After all, your ability to attract guys doesn't necessarily apply to everyone.
Definitely sounds shy. not only that, some guys are clueless at the follow up. if I were you I'd just ask him straightforward. once confronted he'll have no reason to lie and should also respond straightforward. if it doesn't work out, no big deal at least you'll have reached a conclusion.
You hooked up with him, twice! That tells him you're easy and he's not going to pursue a relationship period because some new guy might come along and you'd just hook up with him. It still sounds like he's a shy guy though, but that doesn't make any difference here. It's hard to say if he used you or not but you definitely shouldn't have hooked up with him if you wanted any kind of relationship.
Shy guys are weird. They can talk about anything to you etc, I think if they feel like there growing closer to you and have more feelings for you they tend to back up a bit cause maybe there scared. But just cause he did, doesn't mean you give up keep letting him know you are interested in him.
He sounds like an extremely shy guy that is inexperienced with women and is probably intimidated by you and the guys that constantly hit on you. It also sounds like he may want to follow up, but doesn't quite know how.
Hopefully some other insight from different members can help you out further... I am quite lost when it comes to suggesting your next step.
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