When does it stop hurting? How do I get on with my life?

I'm sure you've heard the "you're still young" and "it wasn't meant to be" speeches too many times by now. (And for the record... it's never too early to start loving! It's the dumb ones who think they're too young)

Heart break sucks... I think we all can agree on that.

Here is something that has always helped me:
1) Never listen to anyone who tells you anything negative about you or your ex. They obviously have a hidden agenda... and most likely has no positive outcomes for you.
2) Opening up can help tremendously the first few months. Be sure to come to terms with your feelings, and don't keep them in.
3) If after 5-8 months you are still having troubles coping, you should talk to a friend or family member. The key to living an emotionally rich life is to never abandon feelings (many therapists will agree that simply getting rid of emotions can have serious side effects later in life).
4) Try not to date sooner than you're ready. This not only hurts you, but it can hurt those you date.
5) Finding a hobby or sport, like basketball/baseball/etc, will greatly increase blood flow to the brain and negate depression symptoms.

The truth is you'll never forgot that person for as long as you live (unless you get Alzheimer's) but the pain does go away. How fast is truly up to you.

You either have to get him out of your head or bring him back. If what you did with his friend didn't pass the test the ask to be forgiven. I don't know if you did that yet. Call him again. Try and meet up with him sometime again. If he really means that much to you tell him. I don't know how he will respond but I think he misses you too.

You are trying to replace him to quickly. Go out and have fun but don't look for someone. Love is hard to replace. He was seeing if he could get you back. Don't try so hard. The one will come your way when you least expect it.

First, I don't care for the idea that he chose a sneaky way to "test" you. It's unfortunate that his friend lied to you to get you in bed, too, but don't dwell on the past. Sounds like you want to move on, so you need to make that a solid decision for yourself and put him completely out of your mind. Until you release him completely from your heart, it might be hard to move on. Dating is good, but you should keep yourself busy and go out with friends, too, if you're not already.

With break-ups you can often find yourself wondering how you'll ever get over it and move on... how you'll be able to stop thinking about the person. The good news is, it works! I found an old diary of mine from high school where I made it very clear how in love I was with my boyfriend at the time. Weird thing is, I honestly don't remember feeling that level of love for him now.

I was so disappointed with my last boyfriend/break-up and started to make myself feel depressed thinking I'd never find another guy I could be happy and in love with. I'd been through enough to know most of what I did and didn't want in a relationship and worried that this knowledge turned me in to someone who was "too picky." Then I met my this guy. We didn't end up dating, but my strong initial attraction to him as a person was enough to snap me out of it and realize there is someone out there for me. Fortunately, this guy and I are now very good friends.

Just remember, the best remedy for most hurtful events really is time.