Picky and alone

Your not being to picky you just have certain girls you like and your the one who has to date her so if you think a girl is to cocky then she is to cocky. You should try to go out with a quiet girl who is kind of shy. The shy girls are winners. They know what to say and what not to say. They can have fun but also control them selfs so just go for a shy girl and she might just surprise you.

I used to be extremely picky. Take a look at yourself, is the girl your equal or better? There is no perfect girl, they will all have some flaw or weakness. If a girl is honest at least you'll know her weaknesses early rather than a girl who hides it. You aren't perfect either, so stop being so picky and go for a girl who treats you the best that you are attracted to. (and make sure you are attractive/socially developed enough to get the standard you are looking for).

if your phone isn't ringing off the hook with the kind of girls you want, give the ones who are calling you a chance.

you might find value in a girl in places that you never noticed before.

Trust your initial instinct. If you see someone you are interested in, ask her out even if she makes a social blunder during the process. You can have a whole date full of asking questions to find out if you like her or not. Just make sure not to do anything physical until you figure out how you feel about her. Kissing, hugging, and the rest only seals the deal. If none of that takes place, it's easier to say "hey this isn't working for me, sorry. Good luck. "

i can understand where you are coming from though, I like to get things right the first time, and I can be a bit of a perfectionist. But sometimes you have to be willing to force your way through what you think will be a bad situation or unpleasant experience. Everyone makes mistakes. And sometimes they turn out well for us :

Don't be so judgmental most of the time the qwerks are what make life intresting.