I know that break-ups are hard and 99% of the time people get hurt. But I met this girl through my friend and I thought she was cool and all but we live in 2 different towns (about 75 miles apart) and I'm not too interested in her but my friend said give it a try 'cause she is depressed and needs someone, so I did. We have only met once and I like her as a friend and think that in the future we could be more but I don't want to be tied down right now and I don't want to string her along while I explore my other options. The night I was going to tell her all this she told me she loved me and she never felt this way about anyone else. I remember my first love and how it really hurt me when it ended and I know that it's even more important to girls and I don't want to hurt her that bad so I backed off for a few days and the night before I was going to tell her it's over (trying to do it fast so it don't hurt as bad) she called me like at 1am 'cause she had a nightmare and it hit a personal issue for her and REALLY scared and upset her. I was the only one that could calm her down and make her feel safe. That's when it hit me that I may be in too deep and that I don't know what to do or how to tell her I want more space. I know it's really going to hurt but is there anyway I can make it hurt less?
Telling someone that you don't want to be with them is something no one wants to do, but if you wait it will only make it harder on the both of you. It's natural for someone to feel bad about breaking up with someone, but that is life and even though she needs you its not your fault that the feelings aren't there. Let her know, even though she probably doesn't want this at first, that you really do care about her and if she needs you that can still happen but only as friends. By keeping her hanging on it will make it a lot harder on her. Best of Luck
Nope that is why they are called break ups. It breaks someones heart. Tell her now, the longer you are there for her the harder it will be. Sorry. Its like a band aid just rip it off.
If she's truly in love then really there's no easy way to do it. Letting the relationship go on when your hearts not in it will actually make it worse though. You need to just tell her the truth yes it will hurt and yes she'll probably cry but isn't an uncomfortable moment better than staying with someone you don't want to be with?
You only met once and she is already telling you that she loves you? The best way would just be to tell her bluntly that you want to break it off. The more you make it "easier" for her by coaxing her into thinking it's the right decision, the harder it actually makes it. You will only be an enabler to her clinginess by doing so. I think it's unfair to you to even have to date someone that is depressed, but when you break it off you really shouldn't mention that you see a future with her. This will only keep her liking you and she'll never work on her condition if she's busy concentrating on you.
I hope it doesn't hurt your feelings, but someone depressed telling you that they love you without really even knowing you is just her loving not being alone, and it could have been anyone. Hurry and break it off now so she can get better or trouble someone else.
It's not easy to break up with someone that says that. I find it a way to entrap you to try to patch things up. I would slowly distance myself from her. Become more and more busy with college or work or pick up new hobbies to take time away from her. Then you can say in a month or so that you feel bad but you just don't have time to have a relationship anymore and move on. Hopefully she will move on.
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