Can You Be Good Friends With An Ex?

I think that if you are still hung up on the ex it will affect your future relationships. You have to determine whether you are still hung up on the past with the ex. If you're not hung up on the past, you should have no problem moving on. However, if there is some part of you that is still hung up on the past, you will have trouble moving on completely. I think that it's ok to still be friends with an ex, depending on whether you have truly moved on in your heart and mind, because if not, your future relationships will be affected because your future "partner" will know that there is still a part of you that is hung up on the ex or in the past and has not let go of that person totally. That's something that a lot of girls complain about - guys who are hung up on their ex - even if the guy thinks he has moved on. He may not have completely let go of the ex or the past and moved on. This is what's called "baggage" in a relationship. I think that if you've totally moved on, there should be no problem with you having an ex as a friend in your future relationships. This is just my opinion! :)

No but also yes. You never really move on from a good relationship you just kind of accept that its over. I'm still close friends with a few of my ex. 's but then there are others that I'm not so close to. If you really were in love then its harder to just be friends.

I got this girl we and her were truly in love but we had a bad start and thing started to fall apart a few years later then we broke up. Now if we even see each other we feel that old pain and desire to be together. Being friends is not a good idea for us.

On the other hand me and this other girl were really good lovers but we had a typical break up then we got together as friends and it works out just fine in fact she is one of my best friends. It affects relationships a little in that some girls compare themselves to her and our previous relationship. And things like that can affect relationships but it's really just the nature of the original relationship and how it evolves.

I guess being friends with your ex can stop future relationships if you still have feeling and if you don't acknowledge those feelings you won't realize it.

For the relationship to work it has to be mutual and will depend on what the relationship was built on originally.

I broke my one of exes heart and she'll never forgive me for it. We've tried to hang out but it usually ends up with her lashing out at me. Although this relationship for me was built on the need for someone and sex (reasons for my splitting). We will probably never establish a friendship again, we're too different.

I'm also very good friends with one of my exes and her current boyfriend. We split in a nasty way by her cheating on me.

Although we had the same sense of humor and general life values. It took us 1 year before the both of us were able to move on from the initial split. We usually go out to watch live music, go to lunches or hang out at bars. Sometimes I can feel her being a little attracted to me but I usually fart or something to steer those feelings away.

As far as my future relationships? My ex/friend is great in a way that she knows what I like and can usually spot which girl is right for me well (even though I don't listen).

How did I move on, especially having my feelings hurt in the most nasty way? I looked at it objectively. She made a mistake of cheating, something awful yes but we are humans and I hope she's learned from it (which I believe she has). I also know we enjoy each other's company and it's nice to share the same outlook on life with someone.

As far "us," Her new boyfriend actually compliments her very well and I am happy for them, truly.

Hopefully this will be some use of your understanding of post relationship friendships.

I think you can be friends with an ex. Especially being close friends. Either way you choose there can be a problem. If you don't be friends with your ex you can't have a future together or relationship. But at least you can chance it and start by being friends like how it all began.

I would say yeah you can. I mean its better having them as a friend then not having them in your life at all. It's just now you guys can be really great friends. I know a lot of people who are friends with there ex's and they do get along better than they were together. So I don't think it will affect your guys future as being friends.

Girl, after all of your advice. I better be ready for marriage by the end of the month *wink wink*..