So I made a stupid decision and joined the Army in the middle of an outstanding relationship with my now ex girlfriend. We were great together, but after going overseas for a few years she started seeing another guy and talked to me on and off. I finally told her about 4 months ago that I can't continue to talk to her knowing I won't be with her, it hurts too much. She said ok. So last week she breaks up with her boyfriend and gets me to call her. Shes talking like she's never talked before about how much she thinks we should be together- it would require serious commitment since I still have some time left in the Army... I just don't know if I should try it and risk getting my heart violently ripped out of my chest again, advice please?
Well I totally understand how you fill. You guys are so compatible it prob is amazing and she still has crazy fillings for you the other guy was prob just a guy to keep her mind off you because I bet it hurt her so much when you left the army. Knowing she won't see you and you could die ah. I would cry. But she still has crazy feelings for you so you should restart an old flame because it will oly get better or won't work so if your up to it and she is what do you have to lose?
Nope. You could be a rebound and if she did not wait before then I doubt she will wait again. It sounds like you want her back but I bet the pain isn't as bad now. If you get together and she can't wait for you and gets back with the other guy or someone else. It will hurt worse than the first time. That is a huge risk. Protect your heart this time. I would not take her back. Even though you can't stand it, I think she will leave again.
I'd say go for it, you guys are still thinking about each other and wanna be together still, sure the wait will be hard and unbearable, but I think if you guys can find away to get the relationship to work till when your time is over, I think in the long run good things will happen for you guys. I mean you guys seem to be quite in love with each other, and plus, you guys broke up for a bit, and the fact that not long after she was "talking like she's never talked before about how much she thinks we should be together" I think maybe during that time she realized something, like just exactly how much she truly loves you and how much she needs you, if this is the case it could make a break up later on for the same reason less likely. I'd say give it another shot :), go for it. Good luck to you (two).
I'd give it a shot. Ain't gonna lecture someone serving his country about life not being easy, you know that and know that you gotta fight for what you believe in. You might get hurt, but ain't nothing like the inside kicking you'll give yourself if you walk away too soon.
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