Too late to date? am I past the the point of no return?

Maybe you should just act like all you want is friendship and make it obvious then she might become more open.

Be a man about this and do this, the sooner the better, call her up and if she answers and only if she answers say hey what are you doing this weekend and if she says no plans, say good be ready by 7 or whatever time you choose, and if she says why say don't worry about it, because I am taking you out don't tell her what your going to do just freaking do it man just do it. Now if she doesn't answer or doesn't return your call sorry man keep on fishing, cause she's not into you. But if she does then when your on your date, hold her hand, tickle her or something like that even playfully make fun of her, in my experience if I was on a date with a girl and we had a disagreement I would say something like oh well then I'm not talking to you anymore playfully obviously. And when you do that let go of her hand and walk ahead not too fast let her catch up and if she's into you she will grab your hand and something like oh ok sorry don't be mad. If that all goes well do not call her the next day, wait for her to call you trust me man if you do this she likes you if she never calls you back or is completely shut off to you on the date, then stop talking to her, and move on. Good luck women are tricky.

Man, you are all over the place with this post. Where to start? You knew for a year that you wanted to date her, but never approached her? She may be shy sexually, but maybe you are shy too? You went home together at her invitation and nothing happened? It is rare when a woman asks you home (actually "insisted" you go) only to find out she is not interested in getting down with the get down. Granted, she just got out of a long relationship, but if you want to know the truth, that is usually the best time for people to really let loose and get crazier than they normally would. Perhaps you were not aggressive enough here? Maybe that is why she asked you why you like her? Ignoring her? It sounds like you may already be guilty of that one.

What about the friend? Don't complicate this anymore than it already is. Call her up and ask her out on a real date, and act like a real man. (It may be too late, but if she sees a more confident male in you, you may get another chance. )

PS - If her relationship lasted 4 years, and she was sexually active for those 4 years, chances are, she has had more sex than you. Better study up Buster!