My ex-fiance has for a long time now given me mixed signals. He never lets more than a few days pass to contact me for various reasons-always finding ways to keep the connection going. I never call him unless he has been calling me & leaves a message to please call him. If he doesn't get a hold of me he goes thru my daughter to pass the message along. When we are together I can since that he still has very deep feelings for me- it is not my imagination or just wanting on my part. I have a problem putting myself out there for him because I love him still very much & don't want to get hurt more than I am. He can never do enough for me or my daughter- always offering to help us out one way or another. Not sure though if this is out of quilt for leaving me or because he wants to make me want him around still. I am so confused- Even when we were together he always showed he loved me through actions & showering me with gifts, flowers, etc. (still does these things one way or another) because it was hard for him to say what he was feeling even though he would tell me he loved me constantly & still does but, never gets deeper than that verbally. He always had very low self-esteem & was always afraid to tell me his feelings unless I initiated my feelings for him first. What do you make of all this- do you think he does want to be with me but, doesn't know how to find his way back to me after hurting me the way he did. I know he has regrets but, will never come out & admit it to me verbally. Am I just kidding myself or is it that I know him better than he may know himself but, I don't have the power to change things? When he left tonight he tried to give me a kiss good-bye & I basically froze up on him & the look on his face killed me. I do not want to be hurt anymore even though I wanted to throw myself at him. It was probably the hardest thing I have done towards him in a long time. I acted very nice to him the whole time & we had a great conversation going but, I'm not sure if I am doing the right thing if I want to be back with him again. Please give me some advice-this is just torture. It has been only 4 months. Since we broke up but, I'm getting tired - don't know if I should give this time to work out or give up.
BOTH! First he does things. Showing it by giving you things and showing it to you. First you have know WHAT YOU WANT! In order for you to know this is you have to let go or if you want this to work out then give it a time but are you willing? You said your getting tired now? So what's the point in asking? Your the only one who could stop this.
HE CARES ABOUT YOU! But your the only one who does not let him in. How could he be sharing his thoughts when your the one who does not or doesn't know how?.
What you are saying is the Gods honest truth- the utmost problem with our relationship & has been from day one is that we are both SO much alike. I know I talk about his difficulties in expressing his feelings & I too have the same issues. - 5 months ago
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