Me and my boyfriend of 10 months recently broke up. It hurt so much but I knew it had to happen. He is only 18 and I'm 21, and we never have fights and we get along really well. I really thought it was something special. But for a while there was this constant problem that because he was still young he felt like he needed to experience the 'uni life' while he was young. I. E friends, girls, etc. He also has a lot of things going on his life, and couldn't be there for me the way he wanted to be. I understand what he's feeling and let this happen, even though it's so hard to do. He says he loves me as a person but wants this time apart to know if he really loves me. The thing is the time apart will be for awhile, as I finish uni this semester and need to move on, while he still has two years. He believes if it's meant to be we will get back together sometime in the future, and he really wants to get back together. I keep thinking if he really likes me wouldn't he be with me now? And you can't predict the future, most people tell me that I'll probably find someone else. But I don't want to, I love him so much. I'm stubborn but don't want to be naive. Are we just fooling ourselves?
I also can't help myself but worry if he's hooking up. It hurts so much to think about that. He respects my feelings about it but I know he will eventually, and I know of one girl he has when he was drunk. I can't bear it, especially when he tries to hook up with me still. That would be using me wouldn't it? And I feel so unspecial thinking about him with other girls. I guess I started going out with him when he only just turned 18, he's only young. Boys are boys.
So basically I just would like some advice on whether things like this could happen. Is there a chance we are meant to be together and we really just need this time to travel our journeys and meet again? I just love him so much. It is hard to imagine being with anyone else. It's worse when he visits me all the time, I like it but it doesn't help me dis attach myself. I don't know! :S
Hey hun, I know how you feel I'm in the same situation . My boyfriend just broke up with me 4 days ago . We were together for 2 1/2 years . I love him with all my heart . He loves me too . He just wants to give me my time to grow up . He hates me going to school, but that's what I want . Like you I have the age difference also he 26 and I'm 19 . We met when I just turned 17 and feel in love . Just give him his time to grow up if it was meant to be he'll come back
Thanx Britt, I hope you an your boyfriend get back together eventually as well :) I guess we have to remember that what's supposed to happen will happen anyway. - 7 months ago
He may come back he may not. it just depends on how long he is away for. have you though of dated other guys or are you going to wait and while and see what happens. you are young yourself your just 21 go out with your friends and enjoy being single while you can.
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