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My wife of 5 years cheated on my with 4 different guys in my face, what do I do?

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Von2000 (Age:25 to 29)     When: 6 months ago
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(5 years of marriage 7 years together, we are high school sweet hearts) I sat there trying to win her back, we have 2 newborns, I spent 10's of thousands on her, bu the final straw is when she asked to move to another town she wouldn't cheat any more, so we did, but she ran away back to our home town to cheat with another guy this one was my friend, now asking to come back, talking about a family, my b-day is coming up but I have no one to spend it with thinking about it with her, but only wants me for my money now, because she's asking all these money question, ok about me I was a workaholic, and that's why she said she cheated but I proved her with all the worldy things she could have wanted,and kept leaving me for people who had nothing but free time to spend with her, should I take her back? , I m scared because 6 months of that I lost a lot of weight couldn't eat sleep or even breath at times, work is what kept me thru it all but now I'm on vacation, need someone to spend it with might as well be her right?

Update: I have both the kids, no court order, she's about fun doesn't care for the kids, but as I stated I work a lot, I can't give my kids the emotional support they need,really think they need their Mother, but she doesn't want them she wants me    6 months ago

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glowgirl3
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glowgirl3 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
Divorce her and don't look back! There is NO excuse for how she treated and is treating you. You deserve someone that will appreciate all your hard work and love you for you and not your money! Spend your birthday with your friends. Go out and have a great time. Seriously, you need to drop her. She obviously has no regards for your feelings. Best of luck!
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forgettenman
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forgettenman (Age:30 to 35)      When: 5 months ago
Bro Beat FEET! Get the hell out of there. If she wants the time to hang out give it to her but without your support. Get. A. Lawyer. Get a divorce and get your kids. Yea it will be hard but better hard than horrible.
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good-looking-geek
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good-looking-geek (Age:25 to 29)      When: 5 months ago
You MUST get a divorce. Of course your children need a mother figure, but their biological mother doesn't care for them, so they don't need her. Also you must be concerned for your safety with regards to STDs and HIV. Do not involve yourself with a promiscuous woman; she is a real danger to you. Also it is not safe for your children to be in the custody of their mother because she will bring strange men home with her and these strange men could be a danger to your children.

Get a lawyer, it will be easy to convince a judge and win custody of your children. And since your future ex-wife is unfaithful, you should try to have zero alimony since none of this is your fault. Don't settle for any alimony, she is not worth garnishing your wages! If she asks for any alimony, that is proof that she is only thinking about herself and not her children, because that is money she is taking away from her children (which she will NOT have custody of anyway). Also think about your children's college education; do you think your future ex-wife would even begin to think about saving for their future? Without saying anymore than you you already have, you know she only thinks about herself.

Save yourself and your children from her!
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lovebird01
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lovebird01 (Age:Over 45)      When: 6 months ago
Don't even think twice here; get a good lawyer, and file for divorce. You don't need a cheating wife who doesn't even care for her family! Get custody of the kids, and make a new life with someone else.
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Superstrength79
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Superstrength79 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 6 months ago
What about family, is there anyone that can help you out? A grandmother or sister?
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Just-A-Random-Guy
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Just-A-Random-Guy (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
You can do better than that, dude. Drop her, keep the kids and you WILL find someone who can be a loving wife and good mother. But what do I know, I'm Just A Random Guy.
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AJtogo
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AJtogo (Age:Over 45)      When: 6 months ago
Hey guy. You're better off alone than with someone like this. She's a cheater and always will be. You say that she has cheated several times. Kick her to the curb! If you want company on your vacation then get an escort. You obviously have the money and everything is up front. If she wants to be with someone else because they have the free time to spend with her then let her have it. You don't have to put up with that BS. Grow a pair and get a good lawyer. No more chances here. Dump the slut!
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Superstrength79
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Superstrength79 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 6 months ago
Personally, I would divorce her... your kids don't need that kind of behavior going on when they are growing up. If you wanted to stay together, she needs some really deep counseling.... and to also admit she has a problem. I don't think she really sees her behavior as being bad from they way I am reading your post... it's almost as if she is asking for permission to sleep around whenever asks for forgiveness. Maybe you should think about being officially separated for now, and concentrate on taking care of your children and keeping them away from her destructive behavior.

All of that may sound a little harsh, but your children should come first in this matter.
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